Got asked if i am pregnant...Good job i am!

[clarebear1]

I was a bridesmaid at the weekend, dress was quite tight so you could prob see my little 12 week bump. Ive not told many people so was trying to hide it but wasnt that easy.

Friend approached me and asked have you got something to tell us? Dont mind her asking but i would never ask, what if i wasnt? she wouldve majorly insulted me!!

Does the friend have any kids? I don't think people realise what a terribly insensitive question that is until they have DCs and/or have experienced TTC themselves.

Yeah I think it's pretty rude asking!! There's a reason why people don't tell everyone straight away and surely when you're ready to tell people you will do! Someone asked me 2 days after I found out myself because we went out for what's normally a boozy lunch and I was on the orange juice. Was a bit awkward as I didn't really want to tell anyone that early but am a terrible liar!

However, I wasn't nearly so sensitive to this before I was pregnant and thought the whole guessing game was a bit of fun! I guess she must have been pretty certain if she asked you.. perhaps there are other telling signs rather than her just being potentially rude about 12 week tum :)

God, as if you ask! You wait to be told!!!

I would have been tempted to say "no" just to see what her reaction was!

Yes, rude to ask. And also on the day of someone else's wedding too, because you could be accused of stealing their thunder.

If that had been me I would have lied and said I was a little bloated from a recent gynae procedure and watch the asker slink off....

It is rude to ask, but I too didn't realise this until becoming pregnant and feeling all the worry that goes with that in the early days.

Congratulations on your pregnancy :-)

Its not usually the bump that gives it away, more likely to be lack of alcohol and I always touch my tummy when early in pregnancy, and I have noticed loads of other women doing the same, I dont think I would ask though

She has got 2 kids herself. I responded with 'good job there is something to tell otherwise you wouldve got a slap haha'

Well, the only time I was asked was the one time I wasn't pregnant!!

I think it was more mortifying for the chap asking..!

My friend got told off really nastily by a total stranger for smoking while pregnant. As she pointed out to him she wasn't and never had been pregnant but her beer belly would appreciate his concern...

Never, never ask as it's too humiliating all round if you're wrong

When I was very visibily pg with DS2 I was in a queue in Ikea in France together with DH and DS1. It was a special fast queue for pregant people. We waited about 5 minutes and then DS1 needed the loo URGENTLY. I left with DS1 (and my tum). And poor DH got a right mouthful, most of which he couldn't understand. Technically he deserved it...but I did feel sorry for him, having loaded up about 2k euros worth of kitchen!!!

Lol at your friend's fab reply whatnolooroll. I was asked by a Doc I worked with when I was 8 months and was huge. He said he thought I was but had made the mistake of asking someone wrongly before, so didn't like to ask :).

I got asked at a party sat night. He asked when i was due. And i had to say i wasnt as our friends dont know. I also think it's really insensitive. People should wait to be told. One of my friends guessed and asked another friend who neither confirmed or denied. Said friend then confronted me. I was not amused. She should have waited to be told. I was only 6 weeks. Added to which i am a bit tubby and always get offered a seat when not pregnant which used to really upset me.

I was at the hospital with my sister today, she is 32 weeks pregnant, i am also pregnant and the midwife said to us " oh it must be lovely to be oregnant together" to which we bioth replied as yes its great etcmthen she said " so are you both due around the same time ... i nearkly cried im only 18 weeks i didnt think i was that big.