feeling unloved anyone?

[loveydovey]

hey,
i have been feeling quite low recently as sincce i have been pregnant i have been left to it by fiends and family noone seems to care.
i have always made sure when friends/family are preggers that i looked after them and supported them, i would drop anything for any of them.

now i feel used and unloved and that mabe i shouldnt have been such a dependable friend when it seems even when i need it most i get no help or 'fuss'.

sorry to sound down i have 3 weeks left and i am so tired and teary i just dunno if im going to be able to cope.

my fiance is lovely but i just hoped that my friends would be there for me you know??

sorry to rant

oh no :(
i wonder if some of it is hormonal? it gets a bit like that when you're pregnant!

is there anything in particular you wish people had done/not done?
do most of your friends have kids of their own or are they childless?

Don't apologise for ranting - it's what MN is here for! I really feel for you and can empathise in a way - when I first found out I was pg, my two closest friends became like strangers to me, and gave me no support or love when I needed it the most - to the point where one of them actually turned quite nasty and accused ME of not being there for HER - because of course I had nothing major going on in my life that was distracting me...

Agree with thisisyesterday that unfortunately a lot of it is hormonal as well - if you're anything like me (34/35 weeks) then you're liable to be set off by anything at the moment.

Sorry if this isn't that helpful - but sometimes it's nice to know you're not alone. Do depend on your fiance - it's what he's there for. Is your mother / fiance's mother around and in a supportable position?
It's a bit of a cliche but it is at times like these that you work out who your real friends are - so perhaps those people that you consistently helped out weren't really good friends at all, and you might be better off without them. Try and stay positive (easy for an outsider to say, I know) and remember that in 3 weeks you will have the most amazing present in the world who will love you more than anything else in the world, and that you can love unconditionally as well. Hang in there girl! (and have some chocolate - it really helps. Honest!) Best of luck to you and your LO :) xx

ahhhhhhhh i think it is hormonal, but it isnt very nice when the penny drops that your friends are only accomadating when it suits them.

a few of them have children and a few fell pregnant when i did so i understand that its not easy for them either but things i would do i.e. massages, choclate delivarys, take them out, tidy up if they were having a tough time.

im very lucky to have a wonderful fiance and mil, my mum is starting to come around alot more so its nice to see her.

i think it hurt more because i was th childless one always trying to have a baby and my friends all seemed extatic for me and now it seems like they are jelous?

im gonna have some choc for brekki, that should help.

congrats dreemagurl this part is the toughest part isnt it! hope your feeling better in yourself?

i feel better today

Glad you're feeling better loveydovey - it's so up and down at the moment, isn't it??! I had chocolate for breakfast too :) It makes life so much better!! I'm glad your fiance and MIL are looking after you - best to make as much out of that as possible as once our LOs are here we won't get a look in!
Have a good day and keep your chin up, and remember MN is always here if you need a rant x

Sorry to hear you are feeling down loveydovey. I had ante natal depression and still my friends did nothing to help me!! You do certainly find out who your friends are!!
However I had the last laugh, I now have a 6 week old beautiful baby girl!!! One of them has only spent 20 mins with me since dd was born.
Honestly, as soon as your baby arrives you really won't care. You sound like you are going to be a great mum- enjoy.

My sister and I are both pg, I'm 38+1 and she's 39 weeks and most of our friends seem to be ignoring our existence TBH. They were all talking about how it was going to be so exciting and they were all going to be surrogate aunties, then after just a few weeks, nothing! We're really lucky we're going through this together. If it was just one of us we'd have been so lonely I think. She came back from uni a couple of hours away to take a year off and have her baby so now we live 5 mins apart.
I really feel like I'll be annoyed if our friends just reappear after our DD's are born as they've really been of little or no support during our pregnancies. It's made us realise what's important to us in life and I think we're going to be a very close family!

oh up and down like a bloody yo-yo!
i feel like mary poppins today.
thanks dreamgirl
i got a feeling im gonna be on here quite regulary.
wallababy i hope your having fun now and enjoying your little girl.

saoirse86
i would love my sister to get preg at the same time, your very lucky to have each other, you could even go on the same day! thats crazy.

well as for knowing who friends are!!??
im gonna stick to my sister shes been a rock to me, and i have definatly got a fairy god mother in her .

hormones can make you or break you, who knew.

im 36+6, and i am so excited.
thanks very much
xxx