Sex Life

[RoxyLady]

Ever since we got pregnant our sex life has been really bad.
When we have sex its great but where as we used to have it once or twice a week..its now once a month.
When we have it we both really enjoy it.
I also noticed Mr Roxy is also watching alot of porn all of a sudden.
When I ask him if he still finds me attractive with my bump he says yes of course he does....
Well I just feel really unsexy right now.
Anyone else had similar experiences

I'm 20weeks pregnant and still having lots of sex thankfully. Problems occuring are that it is not gettin uncomfortable for my partner to be on top as pressure on the tummy isn't good so i'm having to go on top lots more....fun yes, but feeling rather unfit and bit like a whale on top of my already skinner than me partner. He says its wonderful whereas i'm feeling like i'm up there huffin, puffin and genereally being very unsexy!

Have you maybe suggested getting porn you both enjoy and letting this get you in the mood...I have to admit I was more than my boyfriend and he has no problem with this...

Generally i've found if you feel sexy and confident then partners respond...maybe wear a lil basque top while you take a go on top?

ignore my spelling mistakes!

Does he perhaps need to be reassured that his willy almost certainly big enough (not that I've seen your husbands bits obviously) to jab your baby in the head?!

Think a lot of men feel a bit bizarrely weird about that!

Sorry....meant to say "certainly isn't big enough"!

If you want it more then initiate it more.

I felt vile in my first trimester and my husband couldn't come anywhere near me as I was so sick and depressed. Things got a bit better in the second trimester although my bump started to get in the way.

Now in the third trimester and my sex drive has ramped up a gear. I haven't actually said that to my husband or he will be jumping on me every five minutes but now it is a nice surprise for him when I do suggest it or don't reject him when he suggests it. I, too, feel like a whale and you do have to try different positions, but that can be good!

My DH has spent my whole pregnancy saying "so much for the myth that pregnant women have a high sex drive...". Finally I am living up to the stereotype!

It kind of depends whether you feel rejected when your DH watches porn. You will get your mojo back at some point.

He would probably prefer the "is almost certainly big enough"

He did mention he didnt want to hurt the baby and was worrying about squishing it but that was weeks ago.
Porn has always been really personal to him, I dont mind him watching it but he prefers to watch it on his own. Which I dont mind. Would feel weird watching it with him anyway.
Just noticed he is watching it alot and our sex life is going down.
Maybe I need to do something....
Try and get into one of my sexy outfits maybe?

I'm 22 weeks and frankly I'm having to force myself to once a week because my dh was feeling so rejected and depressed. I enjoy it once I'm doing it; bu I just have no inclination to do it any more. Not much help I know but your not alone.

I felt a bit funny about sex in pregnancy initially but my DH's appreciation of my female shape ( and being pregnant is super-a thread I read on another message board helped me to relax and appreciate it loads more.

The other message board had men discussing what it was like to have sex with a pregnant woman. There were a few men worrying about hurting the baby, [with their enormous fearsome javelin-like willies, ha ha, they should be so lucky] and one man who was really not happy with it [but he seemed to have bizarre issues anyway]. Most of the men, the vast majority in fact were really excited about making lurve with their prgnant partners and remembered the experience very fondly.

The classic quote from one man was

'Pregnant woman + baby oil = themepark'

I was also very chuffed when I found out about another unexpcted side effect of pregnancy - increased blood flow to certain places.

Which I believe is what Viagra does for men...anyway, felt VERY cool.

Strange...a bit got cut out of my post there
' being pregnant is super-female - all curves and circles. Plus a thread I read...'

Alot i feel is down to communication and you definately have to develop a sense of humor when it comes to sex and getting creative with the old positions, but this can b fun and in the long run does wonders for the relationship...if u can get through pregnancy sex together, u can do anything!! :P