Telling children - not my own!

[Deliaskis]

Hi all,

Quick query, probably silly one, but just musing over what to do/say.

I'm 16 wks right now and already have quite a bump. Family/close friends and work colleagues all know, the thing I'm wondering about is the Brownies I run.

They're 7-10 yrs, and I will be stopping Brownies at Christmas (unit will continue without me, with just my 2 current Brownie 'colleagues' so won't be an impact from that point of view), and was wondering whether I should just wait until right before Christmas and then say that I won't be at Brownies until the following September, or whether I should say before then, when will children of that age notice? Will they care? I'm sure they won't care to be honest as it's not like I'm a key person in their lives, but I was more thinking of my expanding waistline and whether they will think it's weird that Brown Owl is suddenly really fat.

Any thoughts?

Dx

PS I realise this is so completely not an important issue at all so please forgive me for wasting your time reading my random thoughts!

I would say tell them. You may not be a key person in their lives, but someone they see regularly and to be honest they will probably be quite intrigued at that age. Some of them will probably have siblings too, so may have their own stories they want to tell and would probably like to see your baby when you finally have it. Girls of that age don't need much of an excuse to do arts and crafts so you can expect spectacular congratulations cards!

I would say don't talk about it all the time but do let them know and share if they are interested. Maybe wait till you've had your 20 week scan and you know everything is progressing well, then you could take a picture in and ask them to guess what they are looking at?

Yes I agree with Loopy, deflect the how it got there and how it's coming out to Mums and Dads, as people have their on strange ways and it's best not to offend or contradict.

I'm all for appropriate honesty but I know there are many camps on that one.

Thanks all, I know it's a tiny query in relation to lots of others, but was just mulling it over!

I think Loopymumsy and slimyak that was the scenario I was trying to foresee, as I wouldn't lie about being pg if one of them asked me, but as you say would deflect the how back to Mum & Dad. Presumably if a Brownie thinks it is a baby in my tummy, it is not the first one they have seen and so have probably asked parents about the how before.

Waiting for 20 week scan is probably a good idea as you say.

Had forgotten about the spectacular cards etc. I might be in for. Brownies are adorable for this!

Thanks both
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