what to do? Could be No 4!

[coraline77]

I have three lovely children and no plans for a number 4. Have just lost weight from number 3 and felt family was quite compete.

Sorry if TMI but husband got carried awaylast night (day 14 of cycle!!) and we had unprotected sex so today he suggested I get morning after pill. But suddenly I feel really funny about taking it and am tempted not to and let nature take its course. Maybe its meant to be?

Of course I may not get pregnant anyway but the other three were all concieved first 'try' so highly probable. Am I just suffering an insane hormone surge? Does this mean I secretly want a fourth? Or am I just not wanting to let go of that phase of my life?
Should I just take the pill?

I think it depends a lot on what your DH thinks.

He has never said he wants a fourth mainly because it would mean alot of practical changes. If I really wanted another, I know he wouldn't mind, I wouldn't try and trick him into something he wouldn't be happy about.

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Perhaps you feel funny about it because you're annoyed with your husband for getting carried away then suggesting you deal with the consequences.

I have felt like this, couldn't bring myself to take it, luckily wasn't pregnant but I really felt quite infringed upon that the bloke could do that, entirely of his own volition, without even discussing it with me first, and expect me to pick up the tab as it were.

Responsibility should be mutual and you should do what you feel OK with.

Babies are very nice anyway

Ask him if he would mind if you didn't take the pill and see what he says. Obviously it may not matter either way but it does sound as if you would quite like another DC, nothing wrong with that. Just discuss it with your DH first.

Don't take the pill if you don't want to. At the end of the day, you won't be happy if you've given in to pressure to take it.

well, discussed with DH and he's been great. Said his only concern in having a no 4 would be how I woud manage (he works away a fair bit and I don't have much family support) so I have decided not to take pill. Not saying we are going to try for number 4, as still not sure but am going with 'what will be will be' so ill let you know about 18th Sept!

Keep us informed!!!!

Am almost excited now which is silly silly silly

LOL

Well done. Will be waiting and tapping my fingers on 18th!

I disagree with flighttatendant's earlier post. Both of you make a decision about protection not just your OH. Maybe you didn't mind using nothing because you knew you wouldn't mind the possible outcome!
I hope all goes well and you're happy no matter what happens. Good luck.

Saoirse you're right but ime the bloke made the decision just before the, erm, 'end' and there was not an awful lot I could have done. There were probably about 10 seconds in which to decide.

Sorry if my comment was inappropriate - it was probably based on what happened to me.

I was in the same situation as you few months ago (only that I have 2DC, not 3) after we were determined we are DONE after two children.

We both decided against the morning after pill, and we were both convinced I was pregnant (him because it always happened from 'once', me because I had every possible symptom under the sun) Turned out I wasn't and these were the longest 2 weeks wait.

I was surprised how sad I was, and strangely enough DH was sad too. We had many conversations over the summer, and finally decided to TTC #3 - I was ready to bet money on never going for another baby

Do what is right for you, and hopefully things will work out for the best!

Well its the 18th.

Any news?!