How many people allowed to the scan?...

[clarebear1]

Wondering as at the 20 week scan me and DP would like to bring our 4 year DD and maybe mum too. Is this possible or does it depend on the hospital? Anyone know? If not then ill ask when i next go.

I would think it depends on hospital. Do think about how you would handle it if you received less good news at the scan though if you are bringing your DD.

Yeh i did think this, DP said about bringing her to the 12 week one but thats a deff no no! True i suppose, got a while to think about it anyway.

Hmm - our letter says the they don't like children at 20 weeks scan as it is done to checck for abnormalities and therefore prefer adults only in case something is wrong.

I would def check with the hospital.. ours would ask your DP to wait outside with DD until all the checks had been done and then for them to come in while they show you the baby. It is a long time to sit still and quiet and it is so hard to concentrate on everything that needs to be checked hence a blanket rule for all children (quite aware that plenty of children could sit very quiet for this length of time - before I get flamed). It would be one adult only, hence your DP or your Mum, but with no swapping over if that makes sense. I really would chekc with the hospital/do you not have an info leaflet which says? Good luck and congrats

Deffo down to the hospital however every trust I have been with wouldn't like it.

As they say it's a medical procedure to them although to you it's a fluffy scan, their job is quite serious and they don't want huge distractions.

It's not a private scan, where they will spend time co-oing over bubba it's a functional scan and they are very busy.

I'd go for a private scan if you want that kind of epxerience in all honesty.

I took DS1 to our second scan. He was 10. We spoke to the hospital about it and they agreed because DS1 already had a brother with SN and he needed to be aware of any possible problems IYSWIM

I know that sounds odd but it is the best way to handle it for him.

But the possibility of difficult information arising from a scan is one of the reasons hospitals may well be wary.
And you should consider based on the premis that you do get some tricky info - what would you want to happen. If you would not want him there in those circs then don't take him.

Thanks for all ur comments, thought again and prob best not to bring DD. Will still ask about my mum though and see what they say. Got first antenatal app 15th, scan 21st so see what they say.

i took my then dh in and my older 2 came in after

Not suggesting for a second that will happen to you but at a 20 week scan I was told that DS2 was dead. I was glad that DS1 wasn't there.

Oh god so sorry to hear that :-( She wont know that shes missing anything anyway. Thanks again ladies

Just double check with the scan dept themselves rather than the antenatal clinic (presuming it is separate) jsut to avoid disappointment. We have had a few ladies unfortunately misinformed by community/hospital midwives with regards to this and it would be such a shame for your Mum if she had come especially for the scan.

I think you need to be really careful with this. There has just been another thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1031837-Should-I-take-my-older-children-to-12-wk-scan

I had very shocking news at a late scan, there is no way I would have wanted a child t be present for that.

If you get difficult news (and you are very unlikely to) you need to be able to concentrate on what you are hearing and deal with the shock of it... and I don't think it is possible to anticipate how you might manage this.

Most hospitals say that it is not suitable for children to be present.

unfit so sorry

I also took my DD then 4 to a late scan where I was told it was unlikely that DS2 would survive the pregnancy. It was pretty difficult.

However I do want to take her to a scan in this pregnancy (to get over the trauma in part) but will only do so if someone is prepared to wait outside with her (and it will be a private scan).

we were told that 2 people were allowed to watch the scan, but more are allowed at the ultrasonographer's discretion. good luck!

We took DS (3yrs) and my mum but I did ring the hospital first to ask if they were happy. The sonographer was lovely and suggested that they waited in the waiting room while she did all the measurements and then called them in afterwards so they could see the baby moving and she pointed out some of the bits to them. There were toys in the waiting room so he played with nanny while we were doing the serious bit and then got to see his baby brother which was lovely.

We were told not to take DS alone as if he wouldn't sit well then DH would have to leave with him and not be able to present for all of the scan.

Definitely check before taking anyone else - my hospital say one person only because of space (the scan rooms are tiny).