Pregnant at 43 - peoples reactions?

[Dooberry8683]

I am 43 and have just found out I am pregnant again. I'm in shock but starting to come round to it now. I have a 22 year old son and a 12 year old
son so my family is really spaced out! What I would like to know is whether any else has any experience to share about peoples reactions and how they felt having a baby at this age. Also is it normal to show so early? I am nearly 8 weeks and my stomach has really grown already. I have actually lost weight though because I have cut down on the chocolate etc recently.

Congrats! Agree with everyone else that it is your business - noone else!!!

I had my DS1 at 39 and now have DS2 - 5 mths ago - and will be 43 in October!

Hope you have a healthy pregnancy and a fab little one - whatever it may be!

Congratulations! Most of my friends who are all my age are giving birth for the first time in their late 30s, not that age really matters. I had DD2 at age 37, and no one made a comment or acted strangely, although maybe I was oblivious! I found that the second time around, I showed more quickly than with my first. I suspect it has something to do with the loosening of your stomach muscles.

I have a couple of questions - just out of curiousity. Are all yours with the same father? Did you intentionally space them ut so? I think it in many ways, it is ideal. Each of your children may get the attention that an only child receives. I think that's great.

Congratulations Dooberry, I had my first at 37 and would love another. Also my sil is 41 and hasn't succeeded yet so you give hope to us both.

Really hope it all goes well for you

I used to be a midwife and the oldest Mum I saw was 49 - all went well as far as I can recall.

There is a website aimed at mothers over 35 which is here . They were a really good source of advice when I was pregnant. I prefer the Mumsnet board/forum though.

Mandy

Thank you all for your kind comments and support. Makes me feel better. I will have a look at that website Aragon, thanks.

Almost40 - The oldest is from my first marriage. I have been married for 17 years and first husband has made no contact with his son since he was 5 so my dh has been his father really, as he has been around since he was 4. They are very close and he has always called him dad.

Had my 2 at 38 & 40. There are a lot of us 'older' mums out there - you will be pleasantly surprised.

One of my husband's colleagues have just announced they are pregnant for the first time, he is 43, she 44 and they are expecting.... TWINS!!!

I'm sure it will be OK and having grown-up children also helps a lot. The mother of one of my friends fell pregnant when we were at Uni, I remember she said her father was furious when told, but definitively fell in love with the baby and now, that their other children are married and gone to live to other cities, they still have a house full of fun with a 10 yr old

Congratulations Dooberry. I'm 41 and 33 weeks pregnant, and have had no negative comments about my age. I also started showing really early - certainly by 8 weeks my stomach was very round - and I got my first seat offered on the tube at just 13 weeks (the shame!). I was HUGE in the early weeks, but by about 18 weeks everyone else seemed to catch up with me and my bump has been an average size since then.

It cheers me up every time I hear about/from another pregnant woman aged over 40. There are more and more of us around.

Had my second at 43

Congrats Doob! I had my first last year at 43. I am the oldest in my mothers' group but not by more than 5 years or so and there are several of them. I feel like I belong, not one bit out of the loop. What we have in common is so much more important than the age gap. Occasionally strangers ask me if I am the baby's mother. This may be because I am older or it could be that I look a bit scruffy for my neighborhood. One shop assistant asked me if I was the grandmother but then she was very young and the type who probably will be a grandmum at 43.

Another 43 year old here and 31 weeks with my 2nd. DD is 2 1/2. Yes I'm the oldest at toddlers groups etc but there are a group of us (whom I've met since having Tessa) who get on brilliantly and the age range is 30-43. Its definately attitude that matters not age.

Also I'm 15 years older than my youngest sister and have always had a great relationship with her.

Congratulations and good luck

If Cherie Blair can do it....!

Sorry to have to say that I had a scan at the epu this morning and the baby has died at 8 wk 2 days

Oh, I am so sorry. What very sad news.
How are you?

sorry to hear about it, take care

I was booked in tomorrow to have it removed but seems to be happening on its own now so I take it that I need to cancel tomorrow. Not sure about that one. Very tearful at the moment.

thanks

Very sorry about your news

I'm 40+ who had mc earlier this year. Not sure about what to advise you. You would need a scan at some stage to make sure your mc was "complete".

oh dooberry I am so sorry about that
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