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Has anyone suffered from pre-natal depression?

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babybumpem · 31/08/2010 08:49

I am currently 31 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby, and i have 2 ds's (4 & 2)

I have had a bit of a rough time lately, i had 2 miscarriages at the end of last year, one of which left me quite poorly, both physically and i supose mentally as well. It took me a long time to get over them, but i fell pregnant again in feb and have had no problems this time round.

I know i should feel happy for what i have and i really am, but im finding myself getting quite upset and very teary for no reason, not wanting to take the boys out and in general feeling quite down and wondered if it could be some kind of pre-natal depression?

My dh is amazing and helps me as much as he can when he is not at work, but he has just been offered a new job which would involve him going way for 5 days for training and when he told me i was hysterical for hours..i dont know how i will cope without him for 5 days, i have only ever spent 1 night away from him and that was the night before our wedding. Its making me ill when i think about it.

Has anyone got any suggestions on how to deal with this or how you have got though it...im dreading the next 8 weeks or so of feeling like this

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AKMD · 31/08/2010 10:23

I had this (antenatal depression) and it was absolute hell. I also had/am now dealing with very severe postnatal depression, which strangely enough wasn't as bad as how I felt in the last 2-3 months of my pregnancy. Talk to your midwife, who will almost certainly come up with a treatment plan in conjunction with your doctor. I really regret not doing this as there is so much help available and it would have made the last few weeks of pregnancy and the first months with my baby so much more enjoyable.

japhrimel · 31/08/2010 10:32

I've come close during this pregnancy.

Definitely talk to your doctor. They may be able to refer you for counselling on the NHS and they may suggest a low dose of anti-depressants.

I think acknowledging it helped me. Plus getting out more...mine was worse when I had really bad sickness and was basically house/bed bound for weeks.

JennyPiccolo · 31/08/2010 11:57

I think i have it, am going to speak to the midwife at my appointment this week.

Just feel like there's a black cloud over everything, then feeling horribly guilty because we've been so blessed to get pregnant without really trying, and i can't even be grateful for what i've got.

nattiecake · 31/08/2010 15:13

spoke to my GP on the advice of the hospital obs doc (was in hospital for fainting) and he basically told me theres nothing he can do, and if i cant cope with pregnancy, maybe i shouldnt have more than one...

JennyPiccolo · 31/08/2010 17:09

i dont even have one yet!

what an arse.

sorrento56 · 31/08/2010 17:11

Yes, I have. It is called ante-natal depression and you can get through it with good support. When I had it my GP signed off DH from work for 2 weeks. Talk to your GP and midwife and see what can be done to help and support you. Also contact Home Start.

PaigeTurner · 31/08/2010 17:57

I think I've got this. I have some very dark thoughts. There's not much support where I am either. GP advised me to "spend a few days with your mum". That would probably make it worse!

nattiecake · 31/08/2010 18:02

Jenny, this one is number one!

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babybumpem · 01/09/2010 08:18

Thanks for the replies....it's good to know im not alone..i will know in the next couple of days if dh needs to go away for work for the week and that will really push me over the edge!!!

Spoke to mw yesterday and she basically said that it was normal but if i feel like that after the birth i need to be referred to see someone.

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ktchang77 · 01/09/2010 22:16

I had pre-natal depression when I was pregnant with my daughter. I was an emotional wreck and had really paranoid thoughts. I spoke to my midwife and she referred me to the perinatal mental health team as she was worried I might end up with post natal depression too. It was hard talking to a stranger about my feelings but it did help.

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