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Self indulgent rant coming up

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manchestermummy · 30/08/2010 20:35

I'm a bit of a lurker but am so completely and utterly fed up with being pregnant that I just had to get it all down!

I'm 30 wks with DC2. Hated being pg with DD (2.10) and was determined to enjoy this one more, but so far, here is why I am considering locking myself in a room on my own for the next 10 weeks:

  • The size of my bump is the first thing that anyone notices these days. I'm measuring bang on for dates, and yet "oh my God, look at the size of that" has been deemed an acceptable greeting by my colleagues and parents.
  • I look very weary, apparently. Of course I'm blimmin' weary: I've been anaemic since 14 weeks and I have a toddler.
  • My MIL is disgusted with us for not finding out the sex of the baby. Really, really cross. And she thinks we DO know but are lying to her (we don't).
  • Both MIL and FIL have commented that childbirth will be much easier this time as the 'passage has been made'. I really want them to stop thinking about my cervix.
  • If I want to eat every two hours then I can.
  • I wish work would take my pregnancy seriously and stop treating my maternity leave as an idle threat. They've gone through my job description, crossed through everything they don't understand and advertised for fewer hours to cover the role. Trouble is what they've ditched is absolutely essential, still part of my current job description and contract, so won't get touch for the best part of a year. And I do wish they'd acknowledge that finishing at 38.5 weeks plus two weeks leave beforehand isn't actually 'so very far' from my due date.
  • MIL has tried to take over parenting my DD, and has inferred that when DC2 is born she'll be looking after DD. Not just when DC2 is actually being born, but for a while afterwards too.

Sorry, that was a bit long!

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sillysow · 30/08/2010 20:40

You have my greatest sympathies x

sotough · 30/08/2010 20:59

totally sympathise with the work situation for one. i've still not told my lot and i'm 20 weeks gone. they are so sexist i'm saving it till the last minute possible. (25 weeks, legally.)
as for your MIL saying she'll look after your DD after your next LO is born though, don't complain! i'd give pretty much anything for an offer of unpaid help from anyone in the family. be happy that your relatives are interested and engaged and willing to help out!
(though she's no right to be angry at you for not finding out the sex.....Shock )

PipPipPip · 30/08/2010 23:50

Oh dear, your MIL sounds like a mixed blessing!

It is great that she's offering to care for your child (although perhaps she should have discussed this with you rather than assuming) but totally wrong about not finding out the sex.

All I can say is good luck with everything! I occasionally jot down my rants in a journal - I think they'll make amusing reading one day, and it helps get things off my chest.

Bonners · 31/08/2010 16:53

I totally relate to you about work. I busted my a** to clear things up and make sure all my jobs were left with instructions for cover. I have been on mat leave for 2 weeks and they haven't even advertised for cover and it looks like there won't be any funding for it now.
So, my job will either pile up for when I'm back or they will think they never needed me in the first place and I will be plopped somewhere else not of my choosing at the same pay grade.
And my MIL said the same thing about the babies sex! She finds it inconvenient because she doesn't know what colours to get...
Arrrgggghhh!

boognish · 31/08/2010 21:36

And tell your MiL there's a lot of unisex stuff out there that's absolutely lovely. Don't let the boys hog all the dinosaur outfits!

jbakedbean · 31/08/2010 23:51

completely sympathise about work, my boss thought when i was 36 weeks i still had 2 more months at work!!!! he then went on holiday, forgot to say goodbye and called me today 39+3, i finished at 39 weeks for advice on my replacement!!!!!!!!!!
my mum in law has had a stroke and would like nothing more than to look after my ds, and help with this one, but she is just not capable, no matter what she thinks and my mum is just too busy with work to be able to be of any true help, although i do agree help is only help from the the right supportive person. I wish you all the best

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