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Nuchal scan results a worry

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NatzCNL · 25/08/2010 23:56

Hello,
I am new to mumsnet. I am pregnant with my 3rd child, I have 2 daughters ages 2 and 3 years. We had our 12 week scan today which delivered bad news.
It showed an increased fluid on the babys neck and around the head, measuring 9.8mm.
The sonographer told us it was almost definate that our baby has a chromosomal abnormality and has referred us to Kings College, London for further testing this friday. I had my bloods taken and should hear back tomorrow.
Me and my husband are heartbroken. We are both 29 and were totally unprepared for todays findings.
Is there anyone who can give advice on what to expect? Has anyone else had such a high nuchal reading and gone on to have a baby without any chromosomal problems?
I have googled nuchal scanning results, and have been unable to find anyone who has had a reading more than 6mm. I am so worried and upset x

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hairymelons · 02/09/2010 20:30

I'm so sorry Natz Sad.

When do you see the consultant?

whizzymummy · 02/09/2010 21:59

Hi Natz, I just read your thread and really wanted to send you some hugs >

Unfortunately we have been in the same place as you, our third pregnancy was Turners Syndrome detected at 12 weeks by a very traumatic scan.

I know the doctors will talk through all of this with you but I thought I'd post our story and am here to chat if you need to.

Our NT measurement was off the scale and the baby had fluid on the brain, it also had fluid all around the head and neck area. The Consultant we saw to do our CVS was certain it was Turner's even before the results came back. We spoke at length and several times with specialists and genetic counsellors. Unfortunately they gave the baby less than a 5% chance of surviving to term and if it did a high probability of needing multiple operations immediately after birth. We decided in the end to have a termination at 14 weeks and it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I knew then and still know now it was the right thing to do for us, I didn't want to bring a little baby into the world who would suffer so much and couldn't contemplate how awful a late term miscarriage could be.

We were told not to worry about it in the future and that Turners is in no way anything passed through a family genetically or linked to age.

Anyway, it's such an awful thing to go through and I hope I don't upset you in anyway with this information, I just wanted to post our story.

Our DS who was 9 months at the time is now 4 1/2 and him being around really helped us get through that time. We also now have a DD who is 2. I still think about our loss regularly but it gets better with time, I'm just so sorry to see other people having to go through so much pain.

My thoughts are with you xxx

NatzCNL · 02/09/2010 23:29

Thank you all for your comments, I honestly appreciate all the emotional support from this site. I wish nobody had to experience this, but knowing we are not alone holds some comfort.
We too were told at the NT screen that due to the amount of fluid they suspected Turners, and all subsequent tests Turners was mentioned.
We are meeting with our consultant tomorrow morning to discuss the results and the next steps. We have already been booked into the hospital next week as they didn't want to lose a slot if we decide to have a termination.
We have 2 wonderful little girls ager 2 & 3 who are keeping us strong. I am dreading the next few weeks, and more.
My DH is so amazing, although I know he will eventually need me to be his rock when I am feeling stronger.
Thank you all again xx

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AmIGoingMad · 03/09/2010 16:20

Thinking of you x

sam26oscar · 03/09/2010 18:22

lots of love for today xx

youmaynotlikethis · 03/09/2010 19:08

hi there,i know how you are feeling,i had my scan and the nuchal measurements are 6.7mm,along with blood test i am given a 1 in 5 chance of downs,iam having an amnio this coming tues,after that if all is ok it will be a detailed scan at oxford x

NatzCNL · 05/09/2010 21:52

Im sorry to hear your news youmaynotlikethis, it is so devestating getting any bad result from a scan. I wish you luck with the amnio on Tuesday. I had a CVS, and found it quite uncomfortable. Make sure you rest for a while afterwards, and dont rush to get out the hospital. I hope it gives you some good news.

After our meeting with the consultant on Friday and after having had some questions answered that had been racing around in our heads, we have decided to go ahead with the termination on Thursday.
We were told the chances of our baby surviving the pregnancy were low, let alone once she arrives into this world.
This is the hardest decision we have ever had to make, yet we know this is the least painful way of losing our daughter and protecting our other two daughters at the same time.

You have all been wonderful with you advice and support.

We have given our baby a name. She will always be a part of our family, and I dont want to refer to her as 'baby'. Her name is Cara. I am dreading the coming week, and months that will follow.

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whizzymummy · 05/09/2010 22:57

Sending you lots of love and hope you find lots of support to get through this xxx

lee69 · 06/09/2010 20:15

Natz I have been watching your post with much sadness and I just wanted to send you a hug and love for this terrible time you are going through xxxx

BabyValentine · 07/09/2010 07:43

Oh, Natz. Remember you are doing your best for Cara. You are still her mummy and by doing this, you are protecting her from the worst. Take care.

notjustalawyer · 07/09/2010 16:38

Natz I am so sorry to read what has happened to you. It sounds like you and your husband have thought long and hard about this decision and Cara is obviously a very loved little one. Sending you lots of hugs to get through the time ahead. xx

Emz1980 · 08/09/2010 16:43

So very sorry to hear your news. U are very strong and an inspiration to others xxx

AbiAbi · 08/09/2010 17:10

Natz, I am so sorry for your loss, and that you are having to go through this Sad

I've lost a child, and while I wish I had some magical words of wisdom to make it all seem better I am afraid I dont. The ladies on the bereaved mums thread here are fantastic, and there is also a good thread for people in your situation on the Antenatal Tests/Choices section.

Be kind to yourself, try and take it easy for as long as you need.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Cantdothisagain · 08/09/2010 18:06

Hi Natz

I have been in your exact situation, and have also lost a baby at 20 weeks gestation to a different fatal condition. Be kind to yourself - it is very, very hard; it does slowly get easier, but it comes in waves. I found the time between diagnosis and the baby's induction the hardest time.

There is a support thread for women who have chosen to terminate in similar circumstances on the Antenatal Tests and Choices section of Mumsnet. Please do come and join us.

I am thinking of you and baby Cara, and the rest of your family.

NatzCNL · 08/09/2010 18:57

Thank you. I will come back on in a few days, I have looked at the support thread and am amazed how many of us mums have gone through this. I was naievely unaware how many people lost their babies in this way. Thank you for suggesting the support threads. I am sure I will find them help in the future. Right now I cant see past tomorrow. The hours are going so much faster, and there is little I can do to distract my mind.
:(

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hairymelons · 08/09/2010 23:50

Will be thinking of you and Cara and your family tomorrow.

NatzCNL · 12/09/2010 23:56

Thursday was a very difficult day.

Thank you all to have commented on this thread. Still quite hard to believe everything is now over.

xx

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