advice on overnight visits post c section

[ledkr]

I know it souns silly but i am already worrying about the something and i am only 17wks. My in laws live 2-3 hrs away and this will be their first gc.Mil works in a school so only gets weekend to visit. They are very nice but i am not particularly close to them as they live away and we have only been together 4 yrs so see them about 6x a year so not ever developed anymore than a friendly relationship.So i am kind of on my best behaviour with them.(not easy for me)
They stay occasionally and are good guests generally but its the usual story of endless meals and drinks and clean bedding and towells.
My baby will be born by elective c section so ideally they can visit when i am still in hosp but my fear is that i will not be in during the weekend and they will then expect to come at the weekend which will only be a few days post op.
I just want to weep at the thought of our special time being "intruded on"and the physical things like leaky boobs and san towells when a man in the house. Want to just flop in pjs and bond with baby and dd 8 will need a look in.
I have told dh and he aggrees but i think logistically it will be so hard at the time. Obviously they want to see dgc asap but how the hell can we ask them to stay in b and b and even then it means all day visits which is just as bad.I have had 3 previous sections and know how i will be feeling.
I am a paternal granny myself(honestly) and understand the strong feelings you have for gc and am not implying at all that they should not see and spend lots of time with dc just that it needs to be in measured doses as with ALL visitors and not intrude upon all our exciting time together.
Dh says he will do a kind of planned rota as soon as i get my date which is ok in theory but i feel cruel and unreasonable not to allow them to stay whilst at the same time feel desperate to have some quiet time after.
Also why is it bothering me so much and so early,is it my flippin hormones?

Thanks everyone. Yes I thought it a bit strong to say I was selfish! if I was selfish I wouldn't be agonizing over it and just say no to everything. hospital is no prob I am hoping I am in over weekend so they can visit lots before I come home then problem solved!
Dh is supportive but close to family so hard for him. was just chatting to a mate and we said that parents can't really understand as never experienced it. when we were born they were in hospital for ages post birth. they were back to almost full health when they came home.

Oh yes prob is mIl works in school so only weekend off. am having elective so they do it week early baby due sat so wonder when they will schedule it for? fingers crossed for late weekday so still in hosp for weekend

I think that's a valid point actually about the comparatively short time we spend in hospital post birth these days.

My Mum was in for 5 days after she had my brother, and it was a very quick straightforward birth. Hospitals were also a lot stricter about visiting then I think.
I had a private room after I had DS, and I felt so bad for some of the women on the wards because there were some families who were turning up 6/7/8 people at a time including children rushing about even though the rules were supposed to be 2 visitors per new mum. The midwives just didn't seem to enforce the rules at all which I found really weird. If I had been on a ward I would have been spitting and got myself really worked up I think.
So hospital is a knackering place to be rather than somewhere to recover post-birth.