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Feel like an utter failure

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Threelittleducks · 21/08/2010 09:33

Bear with me please, feeling hormonal today :(

So, dh is off work today (thank god for weekends - it's been a very long week!) and we got up early this morning all together, dh, ds (22 months) and I.

I have been diagnosed with spd and mislined hips and am finding it hard to walk around, push pram, go to shops etc.
I've started to need help getting around (to playgroup with ds etc as find it hard to push pram around) and my mum has been excellent in coming around every day to make sure I'm ok and do some of the heavier jobs around the house (my hero).

This morning though, all I wanted to do was get out of the house!! Neither me nor dh drive and I haven't been out for a couple of days and the walls just feel like they are closing in on me!!
So we got ready to go - nearest park about half a mile away. Basically I couldn't walk it. I got about 10 mins out of the door before I needed to sit down. It was apparent I wasn't going to make it - ds getting all whingy in his pram, dh being kind and gentle with me, but I still felt unable to keep going.

AHRGH!!! I'm so frustrated!!! Usually a very active person (walk everywhere) and really struggling with this.
Stupid pelvis. Stupid hips. Ow!!!
Feel like such a failure!!

Grumble grumble.....

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Sequins · 21/08/2010 09:42

You are not a failure! It is horrible though, I was in a similar boat at the end of my last pregnancy. How long have you got left to go until your due date? For me, I felt sooo much better as soon as the baby came out!

japhrimel · 22/08/2010 08:47

It's horrible. I've been relying on the car and just walking in town or on gentle dog walks, rather than walking to town, to where we walk the dog, etc.

Physio, massage and gentle swimming or hydrotherapy can really help though.

Ineedsomesleep · 22/08/2010 12:12

You are not a failure, nor did you choose to have SPD.

Don't know if this helps but one of my friends had it with all her pregnancies. She borrowed a mobility scooter and that really helped. Maybe you could borrow or hire one?

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Threelittleducks · 22/08/2010 17:28

Thanks :)

I'm only 29 weeks and huge already, which doesn't help. Been really down in the dumps today just thinking about the next week (dh back to work so on my own all day every day). Last week I was so lonely and isolated. I'm well aware that my ds thinks I am boring and rubbish. Poor little bugger is as bored as I am!
Been invited to a friend's house tomorrow night, but she lives quite a jaunt away and would have to bus then walk for ages - don't think I'm going to be able to make it!
It's really hard to explain to someone who doesn't have it how sore or even just hard it is to get from A to B. She doesn't really understand.

So upset about it today and still have aaaaaaages to go :(

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Ineedsomesleep · 23/08/2010 06:51

Your DS may be bored but he won't remember any of it. I had terrible sickness for the first 4 months and hardly went out. My DS doesn't seem to have suffered any lasting harm.

Is there any way your friend can come to your house or can you take a taxi?

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Threelittleducks · 23/08/2010 09:08

Ah, feeling a bit better today :)

Think baby has moved down (?) Anyway, I can breathe slightly better. Phew! Not feeling so encumbered really helps!

On the other hand it seems to be making spd worse :(

But!! SIL has offered to give me a lift to friend's house, so things are looking up. Not sure how I'm getting home though.....

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RememberToPlaywiththeKids · 23/08/2010 09:22

How about going to see an osteopath and get yourself sorted out? No need to be in pain.

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Threelittleducks · 23/08/2010 09:43

Have been to physio already, but am in between appointments. Have a lovely tubi-grip to wear and am doing exercises. It's good times :(

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cluelessnchaos · 23/08/2010 09:50

Don't try to struggle on, this will be with you for the next while and you are going to have to take what help you can and when you hear of someone in a similar position you will take your turn to help, I am 29 weeks too and sick of feeling vulnerable it's not forever though

MrsCJOLG · 23/08/2010 11:03

Hi, just wanted to say I know how you feel.My SPD kicked in really badly at 28wks and DH doesn't drive, and I couldn't anymore. Although this is my first so don't have the added bonus of a DC to look after.

cluelessnchaos is right ask for help. I know it is hard especially as you don't want to feel helpless, but in the long run it will make things better.If you don't rest it won't get better.

I got crutches from my physio, and although Im not exactly speedy, it means I can walk about for longer periods as it takes pressure off my pelvis. Unfortunately I am now in a wheelchair (38wks) to get out and about - you can get them free, on loan from the Red Cross.

Go to your physio and an osteopath if you can. I wish I'd had the money and determination to sort one out and make more of a fuss. ( I just fell into a bit of a depression when I got signed off work)

Make sure you talk to your mum (she sounds great), OH, Friends so they understand your limitations and to get the frustration out!
Good Luck

RememberToPlaywiththeKids · 23/08/2010 20:29

It is really grim. An osteopath is different to a physio and if you do book in with one, make sure they are happy with actively correcting pelvic torsions! The pain is likely to be almost gone within 1-2 days if you get the right person.

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