Grotbags is having a complete meltdown today

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Where do i even start!

35 weeks pregnant with DS2 and feel like i haven't slept EVER!

In addition to this i fell asleep on the sofa as soooo tired. Didn't mean to. DS(3) was watching some mindless crap on the tv as i'm too tired to entertain him. Also surrounded by toys and the breakfast things still on the coffee table. (I don't have a proper kitchen at the moment) Woke up and there was shit all over him, all over the sofa, all over the living room. We are potty training at the moment.

I just burst into floods of tears and feel like the worst mother in the world. DH happened to phone at the same time and thought something terrible had happened. I couldn't explain what was wrong through the sobs. DS was just standing, looking at me, a bit scared i think.

DH ended up coming home from work as he was so worried. DS is now showered and clean, the sofa covers are in the wash, and lunch has been eaten. He has gone back to work now and i'm in floods of tears again.

I just feel toatally overwhelmed at the moment and that i can't cope. How the hell am i going to manage with two! My house is normally spotless and DS and i go somewhere or do something everyday. I'm on the PC trying to avoid thinking about everything that needs doing and avoid aknowledging the guilt i now feel for acting like this infront of DS. Oh and the dog has fleas and the inlaws are supposed yo be coming for dinner! I give up!

Phone inlaws and tell them today is not a good day to come round for dinner. Is there anyway they could have ds tonight so you could lay in tomorrow? If not get dh to get and take ds out tomrrow if he is not working, swimming or something to wear ds out while you lay in.

Ask dh to buy some frontline and spray on the way home, then get him to treat the dog and spray carpets adn furniture tonight once DS is in bed/gone with inlaws. That will be the end of the flea problem.

Don't think about how you will cope with 2, you just will. Concentrate on now and how to make yourself feel better, sounds like a good nights rest will do you the world of good!

Giving up is probably the best plan. Get the in laws to bring a takeaway, stop worrying about how clean the house is and get your DH to deal with the fleas at the weekend. Don't worry, it's easier dealing with a newborn than being pg.

Thanks for the advise, it all seems so obvious when someone else points things out to you.

Can't get through to DH at the moment. Hopefully inlaws will have DS over night. They are not the most helpful. They have never offered to do anything or take DS anywhere. They only really see him at all beacause i organise it.

I am debating whether to leave the house and us in this state (apart from the shit obviously) so they can see i'm not coping at the moment and need help. Bet they still won't offer though and i'll have to ask DH to ask them.

Oh you poor thing! These are not my favourite kind of days! Definately agree about the frontline - works so quickly, our local Lloyds Pharmacy sell it actually. Don't panic about not going out or "doing something" Sometimes its best to just stay in and lock the door! You could put the in-laws off, depending on how much you like them/how helpful they are! Takeaway excellent plan! I've had days when there is shit everywhere too, but don't fret - its just shit I've just woken up from a sleep on the sofa too, twins entertaining themselves, so don't feel guilty about it!

I had a grim day the other day, (I am 23 weeks and have 5 year old twins) alarm went off at 5am for my 1 1/2 hour commute to work (I am only part time thank god) got there, left at 1pm, got home at 3pm. Got out girls "magic jewels" that granny bought (what a great crafty mummmy I am) and they loved dunking the fizzy balls in the water to produce the magic balls. When DH got home, thought I'd better clean it up, only to discover that whatever was making the balls fizz, had burnt stains through the wood of our original 1960's dining room table - a present from DH's Gran. I fled from the room crying and hid in my bedroom (just to clarify, I am 35 years old, not 5!) feeling like the worst person on earth. DH was great about it.

See if you can get a nice bath, a glass of wine?? and an early night, maybe in-laws could put DS to bed? Tomorrow will NOT be as bad xx

Ok, i have a wonderful DH. He has arranged that inlaws come at 6 with fish and chips. I have a bath and go to bed. They take DS home with them and hold on to him until DH can collect him tomorrow after work. DH is also going to deal with the dog tonight.

I soooo need this, only two hours to go, i go can handle that can't i?

And i take back anything negative i have said about inlaws.

Thanks for your messages. They really did help me put things in perspective. With a few hours sleep i'll be able to handle all the fleas and shit you can throw at me

I'm so happy to read the happy ending to this thread , you have all my sympathy, I have been feeling so tired I can barely cope today, and I don't even have a child to look after. I feel terrible that DH has been at work and then came home and had to cook for us because even though I've been at home all day I just couldn't face it . Pregnancy is hard work sometimes

Enjoy your break and I hope the rest helps lots