supposed to be 7+1w - scan says just 5w....

[LetsHaveAnotherOne]

Just had a private dating scan - as I wasn't allowed one on the nhs (despite a history of recurrent miscarriage/missed mc). It wasn't because I was unsure of dates - just because I didn't feel very pregnant, and was worrying. I needed to see if all was well.
I thought I was 7+1. LMP 29 June, dtd 13 July......no chance I conceived after that date.

There was a fetus with heartbeat - but only 2mm long - and the scanner said it was not the biggest of gestational sacs she'd ever seen... so to me it looks like this pregnancy is on it's way out.

I'm going to the dr tomorrow to request blood tests over 3 days to see hcg levels.

The scanner said seeing the heartbeat was a positive thing - but as I seemed pretty sure on the dates that she would probably give odds of 60/40.

I have a nice lot of pics of the "dot" and even a dvd (as it was a private scan)...but now I'm just sad I have them as I'm pretty sure this preg won't make it. It was my last chance. Unplanned, we have 4dc, so dh will not want to try again.

I'm taking progesterone and aspirin - which I've been advised to keep taking "just incase" the pregnancy IS viable.

I just can't figure out HOW the preg is viable. I know they saw a heartbeat - but this fetus really isn't developing is it.

Oh LHAO im so sorry your having to wait again :( this is so rotten and typical you think you'll get an answer one way or the other and you end up being left in the middle. This usally happens to me. Hope your eating lots of cake and doin something to take your mind off the wait :( hugs to you.

With my first pregnancy I had a small bleed. I would have been about 5 weeks. I was given a scan and the docs weren't even convinced I was pregnant. They said they couldn't see anything just a swollen uterus lining indicative of pregnancy but no sac nothing.

They advised me to take progesterone and get my hcg levels measured but in the end I decided against it and put my faith in the gods of fate. I KNEW I was pregnant even if they didn't believe me.

At my 12 week scan they pushed back my dates by a week. I honestly felt like I was 11 weeks pregnant for about 3 weeks!

Dc1 came a few days early and is now 22 months:))

Now obviously I can't comment on anyone elses situation but I think sometimes things can just take longer than you'd expect and what will be will be, as frustrating as that is at the time.

Letshaveanotherone - so sorry to hear about your scan. Hope it all works out for you. Keep us posted, if you feel upto it x

I was a week and a half behind where I thought I was when I had an early scan. The reason they wait to do the dating scan at about 12 weeks is that any earlier is just not very accurate. Once I had my 12 week scan I was exactly where I thought I should be so please don't worry yet. (I'm not 23wks)

Thanks everyone. Still not feeling pregnant, I think it will be a "missed miscarriage" but it's just taking a while for the final verdict - they have to be sure before organising a D&C.
I haven't the heart to try and be optimistic - I think I'm just setting myself up for more dissapointment/sadness if I even believe for a moment that this "pregnancy" will result in a baby at the end of it.
I will let you know after the next scan if they can tell me anymore then.

Just saw this thread and wondered how it all turned out..

i hope it all worked out ok. if so, there's a thread on the pregnancy section called Totally's Grads for women who are pregnancy after previous mc.

There's also a thread under conception for the same thing.. thinking of you.. x

Hi, sorry to say I had a missed miscarriage confirmed yesterday (at 10 weeks) - fetus did not develop beyond 6w.

I had to fax them the copy of the private scan I had (which the nhs would not do despite my medical history because I was not bleeding) - which was the only evidence available to prove the pregnancy was not ectopic (as they cannot visualise my left ovary on the scan) or molar (as by the time I got an nhs scan the fetus was no longer visible (having deteriorated!).
Probably the best £60 I spent as far as my health is concerned.

I'm booked for surgery to sort it out on Friday. Feeling pretty miserable.

I know I'm so lucky as I have 4 children already which we adore - but despite this pregnancy being a surprise I really really really wanted this baby.

I'm so sorry.. I have had two mmc's and it is miserable because your body chooses not to tell you what's going on.

And no matter how many healthy children you have it doesn't take away from you loving or wanting this one. I had one healthy dd before my two mmc's and thankfully I'm now due in 2 weeks -even now I still mourn the ones I lost.

Get through the op and take as mch time as you can to recover .. I'll be thinking of you ..

I am so sorry for your loss. I am currently waiting to start miscarry, it was confirmed about 10 days ago my baby had stopped developing too. It is awful and I wish you the best with your op etc... Take care x

I did have the option to wait and see if it would happen naturally - but my past experience is that it just doesn't - and last time in this situation it went on for 8 weeks - and I STILL didn't miscarry and ended up being rushed in by ambulance with uterus infection as a result. So I have opted to have the surgery to empty the womb so it can be "over and done with" faster.
Do look after yourself KTRace and go to your dr if you feel at all unwell. We are all different and hopefully yours will pass naturally for you. Sorry for your loss also. (((hugs)))