Just feeling a bit depressed

[angels1]

Just feeling a bit depressed today. Not sure why.

have had a tough time being pg so far (and am only 13.5 weeks!) with feeling very sick so I've hardly been out of the house in 9 weeks...then felt like I was getting agorophobic so have been gradually going out to local places this week as I was feeling a bit better. Having trouble sleeping and wake up probably at least 5 times a night. Get painful bloating frequently. Body gets so tired I can barely do anything. And on top of that every now and again I just get really really anxious and nervous for apparently no reason.

I guess it's just the hormones...and probably something to do with feeling a bit better for a few days (hurrah - I thought I was finally getting better) and then last night/this morning feeling really sick again (boo).

It feels like my body has totally been taken over by some odd force and I'll never feel my normal self again. Anyone else get this? Will I ever feel normal?!

this is all completely normal - early pregnancy can really knock you for six..... this is my 3rd pregnancy and the early days were the worst so far of any of them, I barely had the energy to shower without needing another nap. And the sickness only subsided in the 5 month (I still get it if I don't eat as soon as I'm hungry).

It WILL get better, and it WILL most definitely all have been worth it :) And keep going out for walks and fresh air - best thing you can do to clear the head and rejuvenate your body

I second tanmu and once the extreme tiredness subsides it is easier to cope with all the other stuff.

Yes you will feel normal again however if you are like me it won't be until the baby is born but again this is quite normal. There's a recent thread on here full of women who just get through pregnancy and find that caring for a newborn is soooo much easier than being pregnant.

You WILL have good days and remember to look after you.

Oh angels1 sorry you're feeling like this and that your sickness is back again with a vengeance. I know you've had a really tough time of it and it's hardly surprising that you aren't feeling super positive about it all. It must seem really unfair that you have had all this to deal with when some people seem to float airily and glowily through pregnancy. I guess we're all different and there seems to be no rhyme or reason why some people get it easy and some don't.

I can't say anything really helpful as I haven't been through what you have and haven't been pregnant before either but everyone says it will get better, you will feel normal again and that it will be worth it.

FWIW I think you've been amazing to even get out of bed/leave the bathroom.

Fingers crossed for you that next time when you get a few days of feeling a bit better, it lasts a bit longer, and is a bit better again than this time.

Thinking of you
Dx

Hi Angels, as you know I am having the same problems as you and I really sympathise. I am 16+5 today and I am still feeling sick almost constantly (although I had no nausea at all yesterday for once, but it's back today) and it is making me feel anxious, especially when I have to go out.

I do realise that when i am out and about, my anxiety does make the nausea worse, but I still try and get out when I can. I have a midwife appt at the surgery this afternoon and I am already worrying about having to go, which is really silly I know, but that's the way this nausea is affecting me.

I really hope that you start to feel better soon Angels, so that you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Angels - agree with the other posters, it's absolutely normal to feel unsettled and uncertain through pregnancy.

I was over the moon to be pregant as was told I wasn't likely to conceive children naturally (what do doctors know!!), but unexpectedly spent the first trimester experiencing doubts and worrying that I wasn't ready, would be giving up my youth and freedom, wasn't bonding with the baby growing as he made me feel sick, tired and ill all the time etc.

This is just your way of coming to terms with such a huge change, physically and mentally. Don't forget that you also have massive surges of hormones making you crazy / happy / sad / angry at seconds of different days.

The morning sickness symptoms should pass by 15 weeks, but not everyone is so fortunate. If they do pass, then you'll be on to the second trimester challenge (mood swings) and then comes the third trimester (oh, so tired and achey) but the upside is that as you see the baby growing and getting a personality (mine hates my boss and kicks like a demon wheneve he talks to me) it becomes easier to bond with them.

However, everyone seems to get through pregnancy differently and you'll definitely find others on mumsnet who can sympathise and share your experience, as well as those who have had perfect health and stability for 9 months!

All the best .

Just a quick word to the positive my dd2 is 2 weeks old and I feel AMAZING!! Whilst other new mums are struggling with sleepless nights and sore nipples none of this is anything compared to the depression I had throughout my whole pregnancy.
Just take any help offered, I wish I had but at the time just didn't want to see anyone and those I did see I was just a cow to, I knew I was being a cow which upset me, which put me in a worse mood vicious circle!! Luckily o had a very supportive dh. Make sure you talk to close family and your midwife and explain who you feel. I tried to push through it in the early days and it was the best thing I ever did to tell my family, midwife and sympathetic boss.
Most important of all rest and sleep as much as you like don't feel guilty it's hard work growing a baby - but so bloody worth it!!!!!

Thanks for all the messages and making me feel a bit more 'normal'. I don't want people to think that I'm not pleased to be pregnant, as I really am, it's just I'm finding this all a bit overwhelming. Have got a little fresh air and eaten (and eaten...and eaten) and feel a bit more human now. I guess it's just hard as whenever I feel a bit less sick for a few days I get excited that it's ending and so when it comes back I feel more miserable that it hasn't and I just keep feeling really odd on and off.

Rocklover I'm so sorry you're not feeling much better yet, but at least you've managed to get out of the house . I was so pleased with myself as I got to waitrose yesterday (only got a handful of bits...but still to get there was an achievement). I do hope you can manage to get out and about without too much nausea. I just keep losing hope.... I wanted to get to mothercare today to excite myself with looking at bits and pieces but alas just don't feel up to it