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Those of you who had a surprise pregnancy, could you come here, please?

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SirBoobAlot · 15/08/2010 20:54

Fell pregnant last February, DS is now 9 months old. Was a bloody shock to say the least, and not the most ideal situation! However we're all very happy now and it is certainly the best thing to ever happen to me :)

But - since DP and I have started having sex again (we're using condoms and I'm on the minipill) I have been paranoid, utterly paranoid, of falling pregnant again. I have convinced myself I am now feeling a baby kick, despite the fact I have no bump - and we haven't had unprotected sex. I am terrified to the point I will be taking a test at some point, despite it actually being impossible. I have been inspecting the condoms after having sex Blush so I know one hasn't snapped.

Has anyone else done this? Please tell me I'm not the only one Grin or I really will be convinced I've lost my mind!! If you did, when did you stop being so worried, if ever?

TIA.

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deemented · 15/08/2010 20:57

I posted about the wind/kicks last week, booby Grin

Get the a test, forthwith!

RhinestoneCowgirl · 15/08/2010 20:59

I think it's quite normal once you know the realities of pg/birth/babies to be a bit in awe of it. However, when DS was around 18 months I started coming round to the idea... Two months later I was pg again. Grin

Also after a year of paranoia after 2nd child I finally got myself down the FPC and I now have the implant. Big sigh of relief and I'm sorted for 3 yrs!

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SirBoobAlot · 15/08/2010 21:02

Dee, your test was negative, right?!

Rhinestone, I am seriously thinking about going back to the doctor to talk about the implant / injection / coil / whatever, because I'm so bloody terrified by the prospect of having another baby right now!

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5inthebed · 15/08/2010 21:03

I had my tubes tied same time I had my ELCS ith my surprise DS3 (had to have fertility treatment and was told I'd never conceive naturally). I've done three tests at different times in the past 18 months convinced I was pregnant Hmm. I know it isn't that likely that I will ever get pregnant again, but th is always that little doubt in my mind.

GetThePartyStarted · 15/08/2010 21:33

I am exactly the same! DS was a happy accident and I just don't trust contraception now. I had what felt like proper 20 week like kicks the other day (DH could feel them too!), so have been obsessively taking pg tests since then, all negative but it's very weird.

Apparently it can be gas Hmm but I have no idea why it feels so babylike and why it would be different now to before I was pregnant!

deemented · 15/08/2010 21:37

Yes, it was negative Sad

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SirBoobAlot · 15/08/2010 21:38

Glad its not just me Blush There is a midwife at the young mums group that I go to on a Monday, so I might have a chat with her tomorrow...

I have been having pains along my public line (sorry!) recently too, so the other thing that crossed my mind was a possible infection of some sort.

Christ, and there was me thinking the panic would stop after I gave birth

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Mahraih · 16/08/2010 10:48

I got pregnant with my ... foetus? It's not a baby yet ... while on the pill and using condoms.

As soon as DC is born, I'm getting the implant. YESSIR.

But it's very unlikely, the whole getting pregnant while using contraception thing. Maybe think about the inmplant/injection? Might put your mind at ease, if you don't mind having a long-term contraceptive option.

LibertyGibbet · 16/08/2010 10:54

I sometimes feel like I have a baby kicking in there. To be utterly frank, I think it's wind and it feels different post baby. You are also used to flutters in there being a baby, there's a strong association there.

I fell pg when using condoms (no failures that we knew of, no unprotected sex). I didn't continue the pregnancy as I had very bad ptsd and depression following a traumatic delivery.

I too no longer trust any contraception. I have a coil and use condoms but await my period anxiously every month.

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SirBoobAlot · 16/08/2010 23:23

I spoke to my old midwife today who said I wasn't the first one to mention this to her - but that she would get a pregnancy test for me to take at the group next week to put my mind at ease.

I thought about the coil / implant / injection, but am very cautious of them. I have a very bad reaction to the combined pill, but am getting on okay with the mini one, and am hesitant to start messing around with hormone levels again. Also know a lot of people who have had issues with each of them, which again, makes me slightly concerned. Though I do wonder if it would just be easier at times.

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nappyaddict · 22/08/2010 03:41

Mahraih

I personally would recommend the nuva ring, which is what I am thinking of switching too if this constant bleeding doesn't calm down from the Evra patch. They are really easy to put in (bit like a mooncup), difficult to forget cos you use it for 3 weeks then change it. You can even take the ring out for 3 hours and put it back in without risking pregnancy. I don't know anyone who has got pregnant on the ring which is also a bonus. I do know people who have got pregnant using condoms (with no obvious splits, rips or tears), Evra patch, diaphragm, cap, persona, combined pill, mini pill, cerazette, copper coil, mirena coil, depo injection and the implant. I even know someone who got pregnant without having intercourse (sperm was accidentally transferred from one place to another).

nooka · 22/08/2010 05:10

I felt this way (although I never thought I was actually pregnant, just very anxious). dh had the snip and it made just a huge difference.

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