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Anyone due in April 2004?!

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dot1 · 28/07/2003 12:45

Hello!

I found out last week I was pregnant, and although I've not been to my GP yet, various websites and Miriam Stoppard have told me I'm due on March 31st/April 1st! (poor little april fools baby - let's hope it's late...).

I know it's early days, but wanted to start this thread as I've already got lots of questions - like, is anyone else having quite bad pains? I've been getting bad period-type pains, which have been worrying me, but I understand people do get (this is my first pregnancy by the way!).

Right, that's it - hope I get some company soon..!

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handlemecarefully · 07/01/2004 09:20

I was the General Manager for Surgery and Anaesthetics before I had my dd - but had to come back to something less demanding (it was a very busy operational role)post childbirth if I was to get any sensible work life balance. Alas current 'projects' type role is very dull!

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dot1 · 07/01/2004 11:30

it's my ambition to be a secretary! Just saying on another thread - I used to want to be a Trust CE, but all such ambitions have gone out of the window since ds and now baby - sod it - I just want to be able to earn enough to get by and hopefully work part-time. This is a long way off at the moment though...

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Fennel · 07/01/2004 11:58

Dot

will you try and go part time in your new job?

is anyone else getting wild mood swings? I am very moody and up and down, quite embarrassing.

handlemecarefully · 07/01/2004 12:52

Dot1

I was on the CEO path too prior to dd. My General Manager role was substantial (>500 staff, £25M budget), and next move for me would have been a Director's post....but I started a family instead! It's like they say on the other thread - having children tends to lead to a big re-evaluation of what is important in life, and very often you loose your 'career' and consider yourself as merely having a job!

handlemecarefully · 07/01/2004 12:53

Sorry - this is very boring side discussion for anyone not in NHS management!

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dot1 · 07/01/2004 13:42

I'm definitely more emotional at the moment - lots of tears and getting upset over silly things - as well as getting emotional over baby/children programmes - was in floods last night watching the Robert Winston programme when 2 of the 3 triplets died - Hannah's siblings.

I'm going to ask if I can work 5 days over 4 when I return after mat. leave - I need to earn full-time money but only want to come in 4 days a week... I was lucky enough to negotiate this at my old work when ds was born, but I'd been there for 6 years - only been here 9 weeks so far so I'm not sure how popular this request will be! I'll wait until the summer though and see what they say...

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Fennel · 07/01/2004 14:19

oh no I was trying to watch that child of our time programme but fell asleep (again) so missed that bit. how sad.

Dot if you use the new flexible working regulations and it being a big NHS employer you should have a good chance of doing that.

am about to go swimming I really need to get fitter but can't fit my swimming costume and can't find my horrible crinkly maternity one. I have turned into a whale everyone keeps telling me how large I suddenly am

udar · 07/01/2004 14:23

I get upset over what dh says are silly things anyway so that hasn't changed too much. I've always been the sort that sheds a tear during TV programs and movies. Haven't found I've had too many mood swings though. I'll have to ask dh tonight...I might not have noticed.
Have finally talked dh into reading some of the books I have read so that at least we have something to discuss rather than me lecturing about the information to him. He may believe someone else more than me.

udar · 07/01/2004 14:25

Had the same problem with my swimsuit on Sunday. Dug out one of those singlet/bikini bottom ones that covered 3/4 of the stomach before pregnancy, this time it just didn't cover the bump - it covered all the important bits though and was comfortable so that was the main thing. Have you got one of those?

handlemecarefully · 07/01/2004 14:29

I'm always over emotional and prone to mood swings so no change there with pregnancy!

I found the Child of our time programme quite uplifting with regard to Hannah - yes loss of triplet siblings was very very sad, but so rewarding to see how Hannah born at 25 weeks as a little scrap of humanity has prospered and grown to be the most popular child at Pre-School / Nursery

handlemecarefully · 07/01/2004 14:30

Udar

Have you checked out your childbirth thread on positive birth stories recently? - a couple more have been added over the past few days

udar · 07/01/2004 15:28

Yes thanks - brought happy tears to my eyes this morning.

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dot1 · 08/01/2004 09:15

everyone's telling me how big I've got suddenly - and they're not wrong! I'm feeling like it would be easier to start walking backwards at this stage! Really want to go swimming but can't find the time - might take a half day off and go one week day.

Udar - dp has just started reading a pregnancy book - first time since I got pregnant and is now nagging me to drink more water (bleugh!) and put my feet up (hurrah!). Bless....!

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Fennel · 08/01/2004 09:32

Wish I was nagged to put my feet up! perhaps that's why I like working I can put my feet up all day on the desk.

really enjoyed yesterday's swim and going again tomorrow I even feel less moody since going.

Have booked myself in for a home birth am trying to be positive and proactive instead of scared about it all.

udar · 08/01/2004 10:07

Putting my feet up is the last thing I feel like doing at the moment. I've had such bad back ache when I sit down I can only sit down for about 10mins at a time. I can't even sit down for my whole dinner at the end of the day. I'm on my feet as much as possible as it gives me some back relief - wierd huh?

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dot1 · 08/01/2004 10:33

Udar - that sounds bad... I'm fine when I'm sat down - it's getting up that's the problem. I wish my job didn't have me sitting at a desk all day, although I'm starting to try and get up and move around a bit more now.

Fennel - I'm impressed - did you have your first 2 in hospital? Hopefully you'll have a nice quick birth (as will we all!!)

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Fennel · 08/01/2004 10:58

Dot - first one attempted home birth but it went on for ever, gave up eventually and went to hospital for ventouse. second one just went straight to hospital cos they said 2nd ones come quickly but regretted it as she also was slow coming, 10 hrs. I would rather do the (long, for me) labouring at home not too bothered where the baby comes out. also we live very close to hospital it's only 10 mins at most so easy to change my mind!

Udar I find yoga works like magic for backache have you tried it?

udar · 08/01/2004 11:13

I'm a bit scared of doing yoga in that when I was not pregnant I actually got a sore back from doing yoga. Long story which I won't go into but I have a bit of a temperamental back anyway and have to be careful at the best of times. Did pilates last night for the first time in ages in the hope that it might help. I think whatever positive things I do get negated by sitting at my desk for 7 hours a day.

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dot1 · 08/01/2004 11:23

I kind of have visions of staying at home for as long as possible in labour, but I'm such a coward when it comes to pain that in reality I'll probably be there the minute anything starts... a friend of mine was sent home at least twice when she was in labour - I'd be mortified but that will probably be me aswell... Also tricky because dp doesn't drive, so we're probably relying on my Mum or dp's parents to get us there, so I don't want to be making them ferry us to and fro - so I'll have to be brave and stay at home as long as possible!

Getting great big Braxton Hicks which is quite exciting - dp didn't feel any in her pregnancy so it's quite weird to feel my tummy going so hard - keep imagining this is how it'll be in labour - only I have to remind myself to factor in the pain!!

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Fennel · 08/01/2004 11:31

I would be straight into hospital if I thought it would definitely make it all less painful and traumatic. am definitely no masochist. But found gas and air pretty effective (like strong gin and tonic) and had a bad experience of an epidural with dd2 (took 3 hrs from requesting it to consultant bothering to turn up, then 4 attempts and 2 hours for it to work). Would rather rely on gas and air I think. though dithering a lot. secretly would like a diagnosed breech so could have elective caesarian with no guilt.

Fennel · 08/01/2004 11:35

Dot you can phone an ambulance to go to hospital if dp doesn't drive people do this when partner is too stressed out to drive safely too. If you request domino they bring you gas and air at home and you can go in at a later stage.

Metrobaby · 08/01/2004 12:01

LOL Fennel - I feel exactly the same about wanting an elective.

I'm finding this cold weather is making me want to go to the loo as soon as I step outside ! Also since returning to work this week I've been feeling v tired - I was fine when I was off during the Xmas holidays.

Has anyone had any cravings yet?

Fennel · 08/01/2004 12:20

I crave sunshine! that's not pregnancy related though.
meat cravings have fortunately subsided and I am back to pseudo-vegetarian status (ie no meat until next outbreak of cravings)

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dot1 · 08/01/2004 13:18

Fennel - me too re: elective! Was secretly hoping they'd say I had to have one when I mentioned my heart thing, but no, everything's fine so no chance (which I know is a good thing really!).

don't know if I could phone for an ambulance - would feel very dramatic!!

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udar · 08/01/2004 13:29

I'll be going up early that's for sure. We currently live a 7 minute walk from the hospital but if I'm having contractions I don't fancy it taking 30mins with contractions 1 min apart and all the funny looks from people.
Haven't had any real cravings for food yet but I'm probably more opinionated as to what I want for dinner or lunch.
The only thing that would worry me about having a c-section (this is going to sound awful) is that it would be longer until I can get out and exercise and do things.