that horrible in-between stage after 1st scan- anyone relate?

[SaraL77]

I'm 15+1 and feeling a bit crap. The initial 1st tri symptoms have stopped and after a moment of elation (no more nausea, less tiredness, no more nausea!!!) I'm now feeling deflated and finding myself worrying about whether the baby is ok.

I now have to wait till my 16 week check to check that the baby is ok (well to hear the heartbeat) My bump is looking pretty small (depends on time of day and what I've eaten though!) and I'm just dying to feel the first flutters. I felt it at 16 wks with DS1 so expecting the same again. I find myself sitting quietly just willing the baby to move!

anyone else feeling like they're in limbo?

It's such a weird time. On one hand, you've probably started feeling human again you've not yet felt the baby move and the bump is still resembling too many pies as opposed to baby so whilst you might feel good, you probably don't feel pregnant at all.

Try not to worry, make the most of feeling good (before you become big, uncomfortable and unable to sleep!) and hopefully it wont be long until to feel baby move and it becomes real again!

I totally understand what you're saying! I feel like I am constantly waiting for my next appointment so that I can know everything is ok.

Plus a friend said to me on the weekend "wow you're not even showing, most people I've seen at 18 weeks are really obviously pregnant!". That made me feel really worried, now I think I'm too small!

When I was around 15-16 weeks I tried to focus on how I was feeling well and worry less. Good luck! :)

I can definitely relate to that! The time after the 12 week scan and before feeling the first movement were the hardest for me both times (am almost 38 weeks with no.2 now).

This time it got so bad, I wasn't sleeping as I was convinced something was wrong, so at about 16 weeks we went to the Drs and he found the heartbeat on the doppler for me, and that helped a lot.

I know it's very hard, but try to relax and enjoy feeling more normal again, chances are everything is just fine :) it won't be long until you're feeling those flutters now!

Good luck for your 16 week check

I know how you feel - its even worse in my area though as they dont let you hear the heartbeat until you are past 20 wks! At my 16 wk appointment I told the midwife I thought it would be better to hear it as at that stage cant feel baby move yet so would be reassuring. She said she would do it if I really wanted but if she was unable to find a heartbeat then she would be unable to refer me to the hospital so I decided not to. Thought it would be worse if I didnt hear it then had to wait four weeks for detailed scan.

hi, i feel the same. i'm 17 weeks now and haven't felt any movement yet. i look very pregnant to me but i don't think anyone else would guess - they'd just think i've put on some weight.
i'm not in maternity clothes and hiding it from work, which adds to the weirdness of the whole thing.
i've had a lot of miscarriages so each week of the pregnancy has been like a life time. getting to 12 weeks was the big milestone for me, and i was sure i'd relax after that, but not a bit of it. i've been offered weekly appointments to hear the heartbeat, which is really helpful, but for various reasons by the time my next appointment comes around it will be ten days since the last one, and it's feeling such a long time! i'm constantly worrying about whether everything's okay in there.

I remembe that stage, I was so worried. It's easier when your further on and every wiggle reassures you all is well.

Good luck.

I hear the anxiety carries on and on then? Im only 12 weeks and every bit feels like an "in-between" bit, and my goodness, how differently we all grow, I sometimes feel far too big to be only at the end of my first tri, and then I wonder when I'll finally just grow a bump and be pleased with it!
Thank god there's an end in sight for us all....the birth!

I sympathise though it doesnt seem to get any better - I am currently 22 weeks 3 days and after the euphoria of my 20 week scan - now feel anxious again as dont feel the baby move everyday and certainly not getting to feel kicks yet....am I the only saddo who reads through the posts for people due now as they go into labour and have their babies and wish it was my time (obv meaning I was already full term).....

I've had previous miscarriages too - and I can totally relate to worrying all the time - I just reached the milestone of 6 weeks! What a long pregnancy this is going to be.

I bought my own angelsounds doppler off ebay - but obviously cannot use it just yet - not really until after 10 weeks or so. I remember last pregnancy I used it almost daily at that inbetween stage - before you can feel them move a lot. I found it quite reassuring.

I'd say the anxiety continues to some degree all the way to the end, even now I feel the baby every day, I worry if it's been a long time since the last movement, or if he's having a quiet day and I'm only getting nudges rather than large movements.

I had my first midwife appointment at 21 weeks and she wouldn't listen for the heartbeat then as she said it was too early I'd had the scan the day before and was feeling movement so wasn't worried, but if it hadn't been for making a Drs appointment specifically to ease my fears I wouldn't have heard this one's heartbeat until 31 weeks, which was my next appointment.

I've had no previous miscarriages either so I imagine it's 10 times worse for those who have!

Spanish Lady I tend to avoid those threads as I wish it was me!

Sara- you could've taken the words right out of my mouth!

I'm also 15+1 today, and feel great- not tired anymore, no sickness or anything. The only thing that reminds me that something might be going on down there is stretchy pains every now and again and a small bump! I keep saying to DP "I hope/wonder if baby is okay in there?"

Because of lack of symptoms at the moment, it feels weird that i'm actually pregnant, I need to remind myself now. Also just looking forward to my 16 week check up next week to hopefully hear the heartbeat again- I think i'll feel much better after that!

I'm 24 weeks tomorrow and the stage you are describing was definately the worst for me - I sailed through the first trimester then the 15 - 20 week stage before the next scan was just one big wait - it felt like foreveer to get a bump and feel the baby. All I can say, and I know its not much help, is do try and make the most of being mobile and able to bend down, clean up etc - as soon as the bump comes movement starts getting awkward... if its any consolation!

I'm 15+4 and symptomless - apart from the bump which I get paranoid is just new flab (although it gets harder as the day goes on which I find weird but reassuring that it is baby?!), so I fully understand what you're going through!

I find that my Angelsounds doppler really reassures me. I use it every few days and it is a relief to pick up the heartbeat and movements, as I'm not feeling much yet.

It feels like I've been pregnant forever! Not that I'm complaining - I love it - I just keep wishing the summer away so I can be closer to my due date!

I'm 16 weeks and 3 days and had my 16 week appointment today. I was really looking forward to hearing the heartbeat and also brought my partner with me so was gutted to discover that at my hospital they don't do that. So disappointed that after I got home I just cried, feeling totally fed up and went to bed. Tbh I have felt pretty tired this week. Going on holiday tomorrow and think it's exactly what i need.

I LOVED my dopper at this atage just so I (and DH) could have a little listen every few days and make sure there was something still in there! (ditched it as soon as I could feel baby though).

I know just how you feel - hearing the heartbeat at 16 weeks really kept me going. I think it's really cruel not to offer this in some areas - it's generally not hard to find at 16 wks, I thought.

it's great to hear others feeling the same way! Shell96, I can't believe the midwife said that to you- surely if she couldn't find the heartbeat she would be obliged to find out if the baby was ok- and to put your mind at rest, similarly for mummytosquidgies and saltnvinigarrips- that really is a shame they don't offer to listen to the heartbeat for you. I think these little milestones are important for us to keep sane! I don't know how my mum did it- she didn't have anything or any scans- but I know she's the type to assume all is ok and not worry!

And I haven't had any MC's either so really sympathise with those who have- it would be much harder for you.

Cheesechomper- yeah those stretchy pains, whenever I get up from my desk I bend over like an old lady with 'ooh's and 'aah's with the pains but I don't mind as it's good to know I'm expanding -even though it means I'll be a big blimp soon!!

I don't think I'll get a doppler, I think it's a great idea but think I'd probably start using it all the time! Will just have to wait for that first little kick...or my appointment in 6 days! Good luck to those who are also waiting!