Can't Stop Crying? Why?

[Lulabel27]

Hi
I've not posted for a while as I've been really busy planning my wedding which is next week but recently (since Friday really) I just can't seem to stop crying (i'm 16 weeks).

I'm not upset about being pregnant, it was a surprise but we're really excited! It's just I seem to find stuff to feel depressed about and worry about. Admittedly I'm very stressed about the wedding and the arrangements and final details, I'm worried the dress won't fit, I'm worried how we're going to spend our first Christmas (with DH children in London or my parents in Yorkshire), I'm worried about money (even though its not that bad). I just seem to make stuff up to worry about if that makes sense.

I must be driving DH (to be) mad which upsets me even more. Does anyone else feel like this? Is there any natural remedies or advice?

Thank you all in advance!

Honey it's probably a lot to do with your hormones! Also, getting married is a big thing at any time, let alone when you are pregnant.

Don't worry that you are crying. If you know you want this baby and you know you love your partner and want to marry him then you will be fine. You are just a bit all over the place right now but it should settle down.

Have a lovely wedding day and enjoy yourself - the day goes so quickly so try to take it all in!

I think daisystone is right. It is completely natural to feel stressed and tearful the week before your wedding - I know I was tearing my hair out. Add to that pregnancy hormones and it is not surprising you feel upset.

In terms of advice, one thing that works for me when I feel like this is to make a huge long list of everything that's worrying me and work out when I will deal with it. So, you are worried about where to spend Xmas, but you don't need to think about that yet - put it on the list to discuss after the wedding/ post-honeymoon. At the moment for example I am feeling unprepared for my first baby (due in Nov) - I have a list of every single thing that needs doing and a date for when I will do it or think about it. Then I feel I've 'parked' the worry and can deal with it later, even though I don't have time to do anything about it now. Just deal with the urgent stuff and let other things go for a bit.

Also, you need to look after yourself - try to get as much rest as you can, eat regular healthy meals, find ways to relax and treat yourself. And don't worry about driving your DH mad - everyone is like that before a wedding. He will understand.

Firstly Congratulations! on both your pregnancy and impending wedding.
I got married at 26 weeks- now 36+4. I was exactly the same, hormones kicked in and the stress of it all meant I cried ALL THE TIME. Most of the time I didn't really know why I was crying, but I worried about everything. I found breathing slowly really helped calm me down- I'm not sure if you can take bach herbal remedies in pregnancy, but if you're looking for natural remedy I know those work quite well to help calm you down. (check with pharmacy)
I think Pidgins advice to make a list, write it all down is a good idea. It won't seem so daunting. Also try to focus on one thing at a time. My DH is much better at this than me, must be the lack of multitasking! For now focus on your wedding. That is the most important thing and enough stress for anyone. Just tell yourself the other stuff can wait. Only 1 worry allowed at a time, and then you have to try and get a rational perspective on it.
It's really difficult when you are hormonal to think rationally about things, make sure you talk to your DH, friends, mum etc.. to get support so it doesn't spiral out of control.
Have a fabulous day, and enjoy it, it will go sooo quickly- and make sure you have a rest- I went for a nap in the afternoon! It meant I could cope with the evening reception, although at 16 weeks you prob have more energy than I did at 26 wks!

Congratulations on pregnancy and your wedding. I agree with what the others have said. I am also 16 weeks and haven't seen you on the January thread. There is a 'due late January thread ' on the antenatal talk if you want to chat with other people at the same stage as you about whatever is on your mind.

Hope you have a perfect day and you start to feel less anxious soon.

Yes lulabel - I cried alot when I was wedding planning earlier this year just as I found everything so stressful. I took hours tying on silk ribbons to the order of services and invitations then decided they wern't neat enough, cried and re-did them all! If I were pregnant I would have found the hormones a complete nightmare. Before your wedding every bride gets really stressed, even if she's not pregnant!Just make sure you wear waterproof mascara on the day, have a tissue to hand, and try and delegate as much as possible to others so you have less to worry about. Oh, and I'd advocate a massage too to help you relax/destress - I had reflexology every week for a month before the wedding and then a back massage a couple of days before. My back was so knotty with stress that I felt so much better afterwards. When I'm stressed I also carry around a Niels Yards roller ball 'stress' to sniff to help relax me (that is if your smell is relatively back to 'normal') and I take rescue remedy (from health food stores....but check if it's suitable for pregnancy).