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I keep hearing 3rd baby horror stories ...

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KernowMother · 08/08/2010 21:26

30wks pg with 3rd DC. Feeling very positive about it all - no fear of birth, no anxiety about being a crap parent (I at least know what I'm doing and that I'm doing my best) ...

However, I seem to keep meeting people who tell me their third baby was the worst / most trouble / colic / poor sleeper / difficult to bf / etc etc etc

Is there anyone who had a positive time with their third baby or should I really be preparing myself for the worst?

Thnx x

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darcymum · 08/08/2010 21:28

My third is lovely.... she does shout a bit though.

SacharissaCripslock · 08/08/2010 21:29

My third was a dream baby. If you could clone babies people would have queued up to buy him, such a delight he was! Grin

Slept fantastically, never cried, I mean seriously never, was so laid back, fed like a dream, no colic, no problems.

That's the kind you'll get for sure. Wink

littledawley · 08/08/2010 21:30

I had a lovely birth with my third and she was a dream baby! There is no doubt that having a third made life more difficult (just logistics, getting organised, sharing attention between three etc) but the actual child has been just as delightful as the other two.
Oh and she's sixteen months old now and life is getting easier!

littledawley · 08/08/2010 21:32

Darcymum- oh yes, the shouting!! They do like to make themselves heard!

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KernowMother · 08/08/2010 21:33

Maybe I've just been really unlucky in the 3rd time mums I've met!?

@Darcymum - I can handle shouting - a third will probably have to learn to do that pretty quickly in this house!! Grin

@Sacha Wow ... now are you just appeasing me or is he really that awesome?! ;)

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DancingOnMyBladder · 08/08/2010 21:34

I was talking to my cousin about this as her third was always much much more difficult than the other two......

She admits it was her own fault though. She knew DC3 was going to be her last child and so therefore babied and pandered and let her get away with much more than she ever should have. For example.... she had a dummy till she was five! Let her sleep in her bed till she was 8 (had seperated from hubby by then)..... generally never put her foot down as she didn't want her 'baby' to grow up and as a result caused herself a living nightmare! Her DD was a poor sleeper due to no routine, poor eater due to being given whatever she wanted whenever she wanted it, and just a little madam all round!

Incidently her DD is 13 now and lovely!

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KernowMother · 08/08/2010 21:34

@littledawley Yay ... thanks, feeling a bit better now.

Was worrying I was lulling myself into a false sense of security!

Bring it on!! :) :) :)

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PacificDogwood · 08/08/2010 21:35

My No3 was a delight, lovely baby (even though he has turned into a hitting, kicking horror of a 2 year old Hmm); baby No4 however is currently doing my head in!

I know it is a cliche but so true: all kids are different. I would not pretend that birthorder makes NO difference, but IMO it is not the be all and end all.

Good luck - fingers crossed you'll get a goodun Grin.

traceybath · 08/08/2010 21:35

My third is delightful. Not a brilliant sleeper true - but then I don't expect babies to sleep well.

I adore having three Grin

Good luck - it will be wonderful if a tad exhausting.

seanbonfire · 08/08/2010 21:35

Same here, third baby piece of cake, plus he had the advantage of two siblings and now is extremely friendly and outgoing Smile

DancingOnMyBladder · 08/08/2010 21:35

Oh forgot to say i'm 36 weeks with DC3 and so have been jotting all my cousin's mistakes down to make sure i don't make them!

Tomatefarcie · 08/08/2010 21:35

My 3rd DD is an angel.

Settled, never cries, doesn't mind being put down, has all sorts happening around her (DD1 and 2 that is), and doesn't mind the shouting/running/ sleeps through the lot of it.

She did have colic but it was sorted out thanks to Colief.

When I was pg with her, I heard all sorts about 3rd labours too, but mine was my best. I'd even use the word enjoyable. Shock

Don't believe all the horror stories.

And congratulations!

CarGirl · 08/08/2010 21:35

I shan't tell you about my 3rd birth and baby. She is an adorable child and although bad it was I still went on to have a 4th Wink

coppertop · 08/08/2010 21:36

My third baby was the easiest to look after.

She's now 4yrs old and definitely on the shouty side though. :)

SamanthaB123 · 08/08/2010 21:36

I'm also nearly 30 weeks and having my third. I suspect that there are third baby horror birth stories too but am trying to avoid them...my baby's going to be a dream Grin! Good luck!

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 08/08/2010 21:38

3rd was unexpected, but so far has proved the easiest pregnancy, the easiest labour and birth and the easiest going. He's just the loveliest, happiest little boy you could meet (obviously Grin) and I absolutely adore him.

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 08/08/2010 21:39

Oh, but definitely able to hold his own against his 13 and 11 year old siblings!

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KernowMother · 08/08/2010 21:40

Thanks so much everyone ... TBH have actually found this pg quite lonely, mainly due to having two older ones to run around after and a full time job and DH being much more uninterested! Any pg ladies I currently know are pg with their DC1 which is not quite the same is it!

Really nice to hear from other 3rd - or even 4th - time mums!! :) Thanks again x

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SamanthaB123 · 08/08/2010 21:44

Kernow I feel the same. My other children are much older and I work full time. I don't know anyone else who is pregnant and I have felt quite lonely at times. Perhaps we need an ante-natal thread for third time mums!

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 08/08/2010 21:48

I went to the local antenatal classes, primarily because it had been so long since I'd had the other 2 and wanted to be reminded of the pain relief options, breathing techniques and so on. I did feel a bit of a fraud, but met another woman there having her third (we were also the only ones there in our late thirties) and 2 others who are now 3 of my closest friends. Would it be worth going along to your AN classes?

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KernowMother · 08/08/2010 21:53

@Samantha Thank goodness I'm not the only one!

I am going to the Childrens Centre a/n class next week - but can only make the labour and birth (1/6) due to:
a) work and
b) the classes being at 2-4pm when I have to do school runs and get back to work

Hmm

A thread might be a good idea!

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peppapighastakenovermylife · 08/08/2010 21:54

I find people have horror stories for whatever number DC you are on...

DC1 ....ooooh! Let me tell you...

DC2....Ooooh! You'll never cope with two

DC3....Oooooh! How will you cope

You get the picture Grin

sweetkitty · 08/08/2010 22:00

My DD3 is a total and utter joy, she's 2 now so has her moments but she is crazy and so sweet natured.

Her labour was 1h 35m from pop that must be my waters going to baby out, about 45 mins of contractions, didn't have any pushing stage, one contraction there was a head, the next a body. She didn't sleep through until a year but we coslept and she was BF on demand but weaning her off the boob and sleeping on her own were fine. She is so good we decided to have a fourth.

hormonesnomore · 08/08/2010 22:23

My third baby was so easy to look after. She slept and fed like a dream from the start.

The fact that I'd done it twice before and had finally got the hang of it may have helped!

fuzzyfelt · 08/08/2010 22:31

Agree - third baby is a doddle! Mine is very outgoing and friendly and likes to introduce his 2 older sibligs to everyone we meet. You won't regret it - I promise!

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