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Breast feeding = clingy babies?

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getstuffed · 07/08/2010 08:17

DD flatly refused last time and admittedly I didn't know my a*rse from my elbow, for various reasons, so off we went with the bottle and all was well.
34 weeks and I am gonna give boob feeding a good try again this time but I wondered what was general consensus on bf-ing re-above.
Do people think (and it's kinda logic I guess if bubbas are basically stuck to you every two hours for a long periods of time) that bf babies do tend to cling/only settle/cry for mum etc? Does this mean dads miss out a bit?

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Karoleann · 08/08/2010 23:29

I breastfed both for 3 months - DS1 really clingy and would never play by himself (fine now at 4!) DS2 utter angel not clingy at all, plays happily by himself.
Its best to try breastfeeding, give it a month and if it doesn't work out give them formula. Its actually easier with breastmilk initially as they feed so frequently. I'd also recommend feeding to sleep too - breastmilk has lots of sleepy hormones and new born like to sleep.
I think the key is to make sure you introduce a bottle at 4 weeks - your partner can give 9/10/11pm feed and you can go to be earlier. It worked for us.

SoLongAsItsHealthy · 08/08/2010 23:42

I'm bfing mine right now (6 months and going strong) and, whilst he enjoys his mummy-cuddles, he will happily go to anyone and is the smiliest, most relaxed baby ever. Of course they are clingy to you at the beginning - but that's how it's meant to be!

gingerkirsty · 08/08/2010 23:50

I really wanted to make sure DH and DD had a close bond, so I just made sure that although he couldn't feed her, he got to spend lots of time with her from the start. What really really bonded them though was when they started having a bath together every night - she hated the baby bath early on so at around 8 weeks we started running a deep bath and he'd get in with her. I left them to it and got everything ready for putting her to bed, and enjoyed listening to the two of them having a lovely bath time together :) In fact tonight was the first time she has had a bath on her own since then, and she is almost 6mo now!

RobynLou · 09/08/2010 00:13

no, I'm still bfing DD now, she's 3 next week, I never expressed, she never had a bottle of formula, but from 9 months I gave her her last feed at 4pm and DH got her to sleep almost every night (I work evenings).
I t was no big deal and she's a total daddy's girl, apart from my boobs she's really not that interested in me most the time!
I totally subscribe to the idea that if you give them a totally secure base - responding quickly to their cries, carrying them and cuddling them as much as possible - they'll respond by feeling secure enough to be independent, not at all clingy beings.

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