When did you tell your other children that you were pg?

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Am eventually pg after trying for many years for dc no2. Am now 10 weeks pg I think, forgot when LMP was. HAving scan next week before a holiday. HAve only told BF so far and obviously DH, but DS is 6 and just feel that once we tell family as we live fairly close and see reguarly it wll be quite hard not to tell him as he is bound to overhear something? But equally am worried that something could possibly go wrong and he would have to cope with this. Any ideas or advice? TIA

After the first scan, so we had something to show him. Plus if something had gone wrong he would have known I was upset anyway.

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I am in the same boat here. thinking of waiting until between 14 - 20 weks (pregnancy is very long for a 6y old to wait for the baby!). Just take care to be discreet infront of your child with talk - and make sure everyone you do tell know's to keep it quiet from the child too.

After the 13 week scan. We were telling everyone else then and there is no way we would have been able to keep him from overhearing something so we thought it wouldn't be fair not to tell him.

I'm currently 15weeks and told our DD after the 12wk scan. I felt that if we told other people and they passed comments or congratualted us and she didn't now what it was about she might start to feel left out or insecure.

It's a long time for a 3 year old to wait but we use time lines of after our summer holiday mummys tummy will start to get big. Then you'll go to nursey school then it'll be christmas and then we'll get a new baby.

We only talk about it with her when she brings it up, so as not to bombard /overwhelm her, but if someone asks something she knows what's going on.

We told dds (then 9 & 6) after the 12wk scan. They were the first people we told. It is a long time for them, but I showed them pictures online every week to see how 'their' baby was growing. It was a lovely time!

My other dilemma is that ds will have to stop with a gp while we go for the scan and i'm a hopeless liar. Really do want Ds to be the first person we tell but feel events will cospire against us.

Thanks for all of the advice that's a really good point about the not bombarding him.

I told my (almost 3yo) DTs after the 20 week scan and kind of wish I'd waited a bit longer, as pretty much every day they ask if the baby is ready to come out!

We just told family & friends to be discreet in front of them and it was fine.

I was going to wait till the 12 weeks scan in case something was wrong, but DD1 (4.5 at the time) guessed at around 9/10 weeks. "People get a big tummy when they eat a lot. They eat a lot because they have a baby in their tummy. Mum, is there a baby in your tummy?"
At 6 he probably has a better understanding of time than a toddler, tell him after the scan if he is completely oblivious that something is going on.

I told my two (4 and 2 at the time) at about 14 weeks. Another parent at my CM had noticed (was very funny, he was crouched down helping his DD put her shoes on, looked up and obviously saw the little bump and you could see it dawn on him ) and I really didn't want the children to find out from anyone but us.

The only people who knew before the children were my CM (as she looked after the other two for me when I went for a scan) and a good friend of mine because we went away for weekend with them and she clocked that I wasn't drinking. We let DD1 tell all the grandparents.

My 2 year old 'knows' already. I've been very sick and thought I may as well tell him teh real reason rather than lie to him. However, I don't think he really gets it. He says mummy will have a baby but I think he sees it as something mummy might do at a later date. He does keep telling me he woiuld like a baby sister though. Mind you, he also tells me he would like a big brother.

We waited until 16 weeks with DSS when I was pregnant with DS but mainly due to the reaction we knew we would get from his mum. Every time he visited us he couldn't believe I was still sick but never figured anything out, was 5 at the time.

This time around we told both of them straight after the 12 week scan. My mum had them while we went and we then showed them the picture when we picked them up. Both very excited and took DS to 20 week scan (DSS at school but had strict instructions to ring him at his mum's as soon as he got home!)

We stupidly told our DS's (who were 6 & 9) when I was about 9 weeks. Big mistake - as I had a MMC at 11.5 weeks and the hardest part was telling them that the baby they thought they were gonna get was no longer coming.

Got pregnant again 3 months later and said nothing to them, just as well cos I had an early MC at 7 weeks.

If I get pregnant again I will definitely wait until after the 12 week scan and maybe longer if I can get away with it.

I am 16 weeks and told DD - 5 AND DS - 4 after 12 week scan. I would have liked to have waited but DH was so desperate to tell them from the minute we had the BFP only just managed to hold him back. DS has took it all in his stride, he informed that he knew and had told all his friends at nursery already! (Maybe I wasn't as discreet as I thought I was being around him). DD is beyond excited and and I think it is going to be a very long 6 months for her.