So when do you tell people?

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Just back from our 12 week scan and all is well.
I cried when we seen the heartbeat.
I didn't realise how much I had convinced myself I wasn't pregnant (previous miscarriage).
So when do you tell people & employer?
Is it too soon.

Congrats! hard to keep really good news to yourself!!!! Do what feels right, I told friends and family right after scan and employer a month later.
The best thing I've done this time (dd, 5 yrs) is not tell anyone my exact due date, I hate all the ''have you not had that baby yet"' !

You need to tell your employer by 25 weeks (but by that point it will be fairly obvious anyway!)

Otherwise, it's entirely up to you when to tell. I personally didn't make a big announcement and just relied on the gossip grapevine to do it for me.

Oooh, what a good idea not to tell anyone the exact due date. Why hadn't I thought of that myself.
I think I'll tell everyone a month after the real due date (supposing this pregnancy continues well) that way I won't get all those annoying questions!

I told work and most people after the 12 week scan. Most of my close friends and my family new after about 4 weeks. I couldn't keep it to myself!

I told immediate family and close friends after the 12 week scan and then let the grapevine do its work(I wanted to wait a few more weeks for the nuchal fold scan/bloods but people had started to guess and I wanted my family to know before random mates).

Congratulations on your LO, its wonderful seeing them on the scan isn't it.

I think I was like getstuffed, told friends and family after the scan and work about a month later.

Love the idea of not telling people the exact due date, wish I'd thought of that at the time.

We didn't tell anyone our name choices either. We just figured it was our child and their opinions didn't really matter that much. It was hard enough trying to get names that we both liked without having to try to please everyone else.

I told work just before my first scan, because people were guessing and I didn't want the boss to find out through gossip. I would have liked to have waited. I have a friend who didn't tell her work until after her 20 week scan, and she works in a GP surgery! It depends on how well you can cover it. I couldn't get into my trousers anymore at 12 weeks.

I have tried not to tell people my due date, I usually go with "mid-august" or now it is "within the next couple of weeks" but people do like to push for that magic date, so I tend to just tell them.

Congratulations!

I asked a similar question on the 'pregnancy' chatboards as I'm in a similar position.

If you'd like to read some more views, have a look at the thread called "Telling friends and family".

Good luck

So it doesn't sound like it's too early then....
Will tell a few people this weekend perhaps
Work is different, I run a Dept at work so may tell the boss soon think its fairer.........

Have phoned my mum so the whole of Ireland knows now anyway (tee hee)