Right, I need to get over msyefl and stop exisiting for midwife appts. Help!

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I was like this last time and didn't think I'd be so bad second time round. I can't just sit back and enjoy pregnancy, it's all about waiting on tenterhooks for the next appt. I feel like contact with midwife/Dr/scan is the only acknowledgement of my pregnancy. Not that people don't acknowledge it (although not many people know about ths one yet). I'm not generally a needy person (hardly ever see the GP), but when pregnant I feel like I'd like a daily visit from the midwife just to get a pat on the back!!

I'm not explaining myself very well, but how do you just enjoy pregnancy without obssessing about being 'seen to' IYSWIM? Are there any people who shunned health care altogether? How did you do it??

Or I am just bonkers...

get over myself obviously....

I do understand where you are coming from. When pg i feel like i need constant reassurance too. No reason, just feel vulnerable you know.

If this is your second then be prepared to feel even more abandoned!

I am due dc2 in 10 days and would happily see the MW everyday til then, despite not having much confidence in her, madness really!

I know what you mean, I thought second time would be easier too but I was just as neurotic and obsessed in the early days with this pregnancy as I was first time.
What I will say is that as this pregnancy has progressed, and certainly after the 20 week scan I seemed to just calm down, and not worry as much. I think once the baby started moving I just kind of thought Oh this is fine, its gonna be ok. You have to get used to the fact that people don't seem as interested with the second, even midwives, you don't get as many appointments second time round and they do tend to think you know what you're doing.

You do have my sympathy but just hang in there, once that bump really starts to grow and you feel it I think you will start to relax more. And if you don't, don't feel bad about asking for more midwife appointments to reassure you. Just do what you can to get through it
HTH x

I didn't enjoy the first part of my pregnancy because I was very sick and because I was anxious all the time. I only had a booking appointment and my scan before I started to feel the baby and that was very hard.

Once I started feeling him daily I knew he was ok and other than the 20 week scan to see him again could quite happily go without the appointments! I rarely visit the dr.'s and hate to have have rely on other people. Obviously some things are there for a reason and I do like hearing the babies heartbeat but I hate being measured and told you are too big/small etc and just the hassle of getting there (I'm a childminder so often have to take 6 children with me). Having said that a lady on my due sept thread was measuring small, had a scan and ended with an emcs there are then to deliver a healthy 3lb baby. He's going to be at hospital for 2-3 weeks, but had it not been checked could have been much worse.

Once the baby starts to move I'm sure you'll feel better but do try to chill out a bit, you are pregnant and don't need to see a midwife to be so. Try to forget about the appointments until they are closer.