Does anyone else hate their body at the moment?

[Rocklover]

I have put on at least 5-7 lbs in 13 weeks, (mainly due to stuffing my face to combat the nausea) and my body is really starting to expand and I find it really depressing.

I was very ill in my first pregnancy and lost 2.5st, and although I am glad that I am nowhere near as poorly, the fact that I look so horrible this time round is really upsetting me. To start off I put on over a stone before I got pg, going from a size 12 to a size 14/16, and now I have gone up another half a stone I just feel so out of control and horrid.

I am terrified I will put a horrendous amount of weight on during the remainder of the pregnancy and I am starting to panic. Fwiw, my dp loves my body and tells me continuously how beautiful and sexy I am and I annoy him intensley by constantly refusing his compliments. I hope this is just hormones, because I really want to be able to enjoy being pregnant after the sickness wears off, but how will I be able to if i just hate my body all the time?

Feeling depressed today.

I'm not loving my body. I seem to have more cellulite than normal and my thighs, bum and hips look bigger (no they don't just look bigger, they ARE bigger)

My DH is cool as well and says I look sexy and even put 'pregnant fox' on the fridge in fridge magnet letters, but I feel a chubby, wobbly, waddling oompa loompa.

Some people just don't feel sexy pregnant. I feel sexier when I am dressed and have make up on, but even then....

hiya

dont worry about your weight now pregnancyis a time to enjoy and feel free to eat what you want lol. people are not gonna think your fat there gonna think shes pregnant.

i was a size 6 before i got pregnant and i put 4 stone on but tbh i just thought well to hell with it for now, i wil just think about loosing it when ive had the baby.

obviously some days i felt horrible, its only normal.
dont you worry it will be better after you have had the baby. for now enjoy it. all that matters is, u have a partner that thinks your gorgeous and your gonna have 2 beautiful children, its gotta be worth it right?

Very good that you are still doing make up etc dasiy, I'm rubbish with that. It doesn't help that I haven't had my eyebrows waxed in eons due to feeling too pukey.

Just had my hair cut, but, I have nowhere with a mirror near a bloody plug socket in my new flat, so find it really hard to blowdry my hair properly, hence I always look a fluffy mess. And I have spots! Grrrrrr!

Well, I wasn't keen on how I looked before being pg Beckie, so I am just going to have to work super hard after baby is born to get rid of the podge!

im never keen on how i look lol, infact hate it now. think its a major thing for some people, speshly after having children

i have spots too. Lovely isn't it? I am actually off to have my hair highlighted in an hour so will hopefully come out of the hairdressers feeling a new woman!

I also think that I am moving/walking in a different way and that is making me feel weird about my body. I don't like waddling and I can't walk very fast and get out of breath. It makes me feel like one of those obese American people who can't leave their own home. Aaagh.

I was feeling very miserable and fat yesterday but went for a jog last night and now I feel somewhat better! I am 16+4 and I am definitely starting to show, but people who don't know me would think I was just getting fat. Can't wait to have a proper bump!

It's hard if you're feeling ill but try to get out of the house and go for a walk, it always makes me feel better to do some exercise. It's building up the motivation to get up off the couch and do it that's the problem!

I think it's tough if you were struggling with body issues before getting pregnant. I still find it a bit hard at times.

Having well fitted underwear and maternity clothes does help. Most maternity clothes is shaped to show off your bump and make you look more pregnant and not just fat. I find that if I wear non-maternity clothes, such as the jogging bottoms I still just fit in, I look fat more than pregnant!

And looking after your skin, hair and nails makes a big difference. I've started getting my hair coloured at the hairdressers as I can't cope with doing it at home now and I like both the pampering and coming out looking good. I'm also wearing make-up more often than before and it really does help - I don't get so depressed when I catch sight of my reflection when out!

I have always had a pot belly (with a crease in the middle that is possing as a waist). I loved it when I went down to a size 12 as have always been a size 14-16. I managed to stay a size 12 for over 2 years with minumum effort, however I had severe anxiety in that time and life was a nightmare, the slimness was the only perk.

I put on the weight again when I recovered and began to enjoy life again, so I shouble be happy that I am well again, not dwelling on the fact that a bit of weight has gone on again. But, it's not as easy as it sounds, still wish I was thinner. I am driving my dp to distraction with all my whinging and self hatred.

I just tried to blow dry my hair for the first time in ages and it was like trying to brush through velcro! What the hell is pregnancy doing to me???

People keep telling me how "well" I look, but as far as I am concerned I'm just fat. The bump is one thing but I have put on weight on my arms, thighs face and back (eugh). I never used to have cellulite but now I have horrible dimply thighs and some on my calves and upper arms. I have a feeling a lot of it is water retention. I'm eating more healthily than usual, I can't understand where it is coming from.

Anyhow, 2 weeks to go and hopefully it will all go into breastmilk!

I can identify. I'm 18+5 today and though DH thinks, says, and demonstrates that he finds my body beautiful, I still worry.

This could be because when we told my parents I was pregnant, their first response was to tell me that now would be a good time for me to lose weight

Still, maternity clothes can make a difference especially empire line cuts. And try to listen to your DP or ask him to go into greater detail which is a way of engaging with his compliments e.g. What do you think is beautiful?

Tried this with DH and he said "Well, all your curves that I like are emphasized, you look like a fertility goddess" And that helped a lot more than the generic "You're lovely" which is true, but sometimes you need greater detail.

A pregnant body is the most beautiful thing, I loved being pregnant even with the constant nausea and sickness until about the 20th week.

It's afterwards that depressed me, felt like a deflated flabby baloon.

I'm maybe not loving the expanding waist line (am 13+3 and have put on 7lbs so far) but am definitely loving that my boobs are mahoosive lol Have a cleavage for the first time eva!! But DP can't really enjoy it as I can't bear him to touch them cos they are so sore

I love my pregnant body - I dont want it to end!

I am definitely finding it harder to deal with the expansion this time round, as I know how hard I had to work after DS to get back into shape!

I don't mind the bump and the boobs which are obviously inevitable, but the bum, hips, thighs, even arms, looking fat and dimply are quite depressing.

Rocklover, like you I lost a lot of weight with HG at the beginning of my 1st pg, and was not quite as bad this time, mainly, like you, because I kept stuffing my face every half an hour hence did not lose the same amount of weight at the beginning / have put on more weight overall as a result.

Am trying to keep up with a little bit of exercise to avoid becoming too whale-like but being exhausted so much of the time, it's really hard!

I'm 36 weeks with second baby. Family are being really sweet saying that I'm "all bump" and "you wouldn't know you are pregnant from behind".

It's lovely to hear but I can see that my face and upper arms are fatter.

Also, the strecthmarks are getting me down. I know that they will fade but they are ruining the look of my lovely bump. I am aware of how pathetic that sounds.

Ah, it's good to whinge.

for me the worst thing about my appearance just now is my hair! i've got all this new hair sprouting at the front, which is curling up because of the humidity in London just now. you can't do anything with it cos it's too short. i normally keep my hair nice and sleek with a semi permanent blow dry but am worried about the chemicals while i'm pregnant so it's an awful curly frizz.
meanwhile my bump just looks like i've had way too many pies and i have huge, and i mean huge, dark purple scary bruises on either side of my tummy from self injecting the blood thinners i'm on to try to avoid miscarriage. i feel very unsexy.

I'm finding it tough too, it is ridiculous really.

Im between 8-9 weeks (the doctors aren't sure) and I can't fit into any of my clothes! NONE! I have to keep eating because if I don't I feel terribly sick.

This pregnancy is completely different from DD1. With her I was absolutely tiny size 8, 8 stone nothing person, who didn't show until about 5 months.

Now, I'm definately not tiny and I"ve got a bump already and huge boobs.

It feels very wierd!!!!

However I'm just settling in for a night of vomiting now

I feel dreadful to feel so bad about how I look at the moment because I am really, truly grateful to be pregnant, but on Sunday I had a whole day of people openly laughing at how big I was for my months, saying they couldn't believe I still had two months to go, and last night I got a text from someone I haven't seen for ages saying that they saw me walking along the street last week and I looked huge. That was the straw that broke the [fat] donkey's back, and I went into total meltdown, where my usually supportive husband told me to get a grip, and that my body would be my own again in a couple of months. I'm just tired of being mocked about my unattractive body. Is that unreasonable?! Thanks for giving me a chance to vent that though.

I've had a hard time accepting that my bump looks like a bump and not just a large pot belly. Thankfully I haven't really put much on elsewhere but cos my bump's low i just see bloat in the mirror. My husband thinks i'm mad, especially as i'm now nearly 35 weeks, but as far as i'm concerned its still touch and go as to whether i look pregnant or fat, depending on what i'm wearing.

everyone, about the hair, I put a thread on here and was advised to stop washing it with shampoo, just use conditioner and lay off the products, and mine has been loads better

this is my 3rd pregnancy and i was feeling a bit down in the dumps about the state of my body after my 2nd...now it's on a whole new level! my 'bump' is enormous and i'm only 12 weeks, i can't even feel my uterus so it's just bloating and my stomach muscles in a really bad state. now i'm starting to look properly pregnant i'm just enjoying having a bump again (even if it's just flabby tummy!)
just running around after a baby and a toddler and exclusive breastfeeding meant i lost my baby weight really quickly to the point where i went to the doctor cause i lost so much so quick.

38 weeks here and feeling fairly down about my body - I've been the same size and shape for 20 years, never all that happy with it but at least I'd come to terms with it, and although rationally I know I'm pregnant (and haven't put on all that much weight), I just look in the mirror and see fat. I also really hate my breasts - I was fairly well-endowed to start with (28FF) and now I'm up to a 30H, which is just ridiculous. I'm completely dreading what I'll look like after the birth too.