baby machine

[nagoo]

I am very sad because my DH will not 'do it' with me. Hasn't been interested since I got pg. Last time we remained 'active' so to speak all the way through

He went so far as to say that he does fancy me, but he thinks of me as a 'baby machine' (actual words. TWICE) and doesn't want to hurt the baby etc. (usual bollocks).

I am very sad about this. I'm only 5 months and feel very sad about no sex the rest of this pregnancy. Also if he thinks he's getting any soon after the baby is out he's sadly mistaken!

I would just like to be seen as a woman, not a fricking baby machine!

bump.

I wish my DH was like yours!! I've gone right of 'it' completely but know he would still like to... he's not pushy and understands but I just can't bear the thought of it!
Must be frustrating for you though, try and talk to him about it. x

How frustrating and demoralising for you . Have you talked to him about how you're feeling? Seems a bit odd, particularly if he was OK with it last time.

How is he with non-penetrative sex/physical affection? Could you go for alternatives either manual or oral?

Very unfair to call you a 'baby machine' imo. It sounds like you would both benefit from a bit of time together to concentrate on each other as a couple - it is easily forgotten ime once you have children. Is there someone who could look after your DC for an evening or even overnight to give you both a bit of time together?

It's our anniversary next week, and he has asked where I would like to go for dinner... I'm not getting my hopes up about feeling sey though.

It's just that I don't feel comfortable initiating anything as I don't think I could deal with the rejection

He has started to cuddle me now. I started some other threads about how detached we were because of the pressures (time and money and stress levels) we've been under while he has done a teacher training course.

I just wondered if it really is the usual thing that they go off it when we are pregnant?

I feel it's a bit ironic that I feel less of a woman when I'm doing the most 'womanly' thing that can happen!

sey = sexy sorry