9+2 want to tell some friends today but how much risk of mc at this point?

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I'm meeting some friends today and would quite like to tell them my good news but not if there's more than about a 5% chance I'll mc. I'm just over nine weeks and have all the symptoms, it's my first pg ever and I'm 25 years old.

Any thoughts on my chances of mc from this point? I think my mum might have had one if not several mc's, if that's relevant.

Thanks in advance! Hope everyone out there is enjoying the start of their weekend

I think the risk factor only counts if you have already had a scan and seen a heartbeat. Unfortunately i have had two mcs at 9+6. So my advice is to try and keep it quiet until the scan shows everything is ok. it is of course up to you though, congratulations!

How close are these friends? Are they the people you would rely on for support if in the unlikely event it all went wrong? In which case, I would go ahead and tell them. I told my closest friends well before 12 weeks because (a) i was itching to tell someone and (b) I would have told them had it all gone wrong.

Agree with Pickle. I didn't make my pg public knowledge until 16 weeks, but told my closest friends straight away. I knew I would want their support regardless of whether I stayed pregnant or not.

Another vote for telling people close to you.

Should the worst happen (and chances are it won't) wouldn't you want them to know why you were sad so they could help you?

Congratulations and enjoy your pregnancy

congratulations! without sounding like the voice of doom, things can go wrong at any stage.... if you are spending a nice time today with good friends, i would tell them. life is too miserable not to share the happy times.

have a good day out.

I did the same as the above people- I told those who I would tell anyway in the case of things going wrong. In my case, I lived with a few friends both times anyway, and it was pretty obvious that I was suddenly not drinking and throwing up in the morning!

Things can go wrong at any stage. I'm not sure what the risk of miscarriage at 9 weeks without yet having had a scan is. I know it starts at around 25% after you've got a positive test result and goes down, dropping hugely if you see the heartbeat (e.g. from an early scan).

Just found this...

"The highest risk period is between 4 and 6 weeks. Once 8 or 9 weeks are reached and the baby's heart beat is seen on a scan there is only a 4% to 5% chance of miscarriage..."

www.miscarriagesupport.org.nz/what_mis.html

So if you haven't had a scan yet, the risk is definitely above 5%.

Hey everyone. Just got back from seeing friends and wanted to thank you for your advice. I decided to tell them in the end as they are all good friends and would be there for me if anything went wrong. Thank you for your help