My DD was born 10 months ago, and we have started thinking about TTC.
My last pregnancy went very well, nothing major, but ended up very overdue and had failed induction at 42+1 - the process was a little stressful, and since I am the only one in my group of friend to have been through failed induction + section, I have never really spoken about the experience with anyone (most of people I know discount C-section childbirth as real birthing experience; while people's opinion do not bother me too much, it kind of stops me from 'sharing')
Anyhow - got induction, it failed, saw 4 registars, with conflicting opinions on section, from one telling me to wait for natural labour to the other telling me I was putting my baby at risk. The last one I saw after the 3rd pessary failed convinced me to opt for section. I asked her to write it down, as well as to pass the info to consultant, as I didn't want to be messed around the following morning. Morning came, along with consultant, who was adamant I should go home and wait. Got him to get his students out, asked to be examined, and stood my ground for a section (originally v. far from anything in my birthplan, but by that point I was paranoid about baby not being safe anymore, cervix totally closed despite 2 days of inefficient contractions).
DD was born at mid-day that day, looking healthy and gorgeous. When we got back to the ward, the pediatrician came to tell us that DD had (not previously diagnosed) single umbilical artery, telling us that it is sometime linked to a raft of chromosomal anomalies + organ defects. Cue to scans and test, which revealed nothing.
I have buried all this deed inside for these months, and only looked at it yesterday - studies in the US show quite high perinatal risk for these babies, inc. stillbirth.
Anyone else has experience of this? If nothing was diagnosed at birth, can defects become apparent later on?
My other concern is that I never had a debrief of DD's birth, either for C-section, or SUA, with HV, GP or consultant. Is it normal? I have ambivalent thoughts about VBAC or going through section again next time - I am still not sure why my DD never engaged, whether it would happen again, whether SUA would happen again...
Anyhow - would be very glad to hear from anyone with similar experience!