Feeling flat

[anne74]

Hi,

I had my 12 week scan this morning and should be feeling totally elated. My risk for Downs syndrome came back as 1:6400 which given that I'm 35 is pretty darn good. Everything on my scan was absolutely fine. My baby was busy sucking his thumb and generally just chilling out.

why then do I feel completely flat? I was expecting to feel really excited but just feel really down. I did get a really negative comment from a colleague at work when I arrived after my scan, but I've had a few of those from her now which I'm going to address. I just feel like I want to crawl into a corner and be miserable.

Is it just hormones? I was really nervous before the scan so I'm sure there's an element of the adrenaline come down going on. My OH reckons that the sonographer wasn't that friendly and didn't really put us at ease but I think she was just busy concentrating on doing the measurements.

My whole pregnancy is a bit of a taboo subject at work anyway, as I'm the last of several all at the same time in the same office and I think everyone's fed up of hearing about pregnancy. I've stopped taking any scan pictures in because of the negative comments I get.

Sorry, just a general rant and a bit fed up and not feeling the way I was expecting to.

I must admit to feeling some anti-climax moments after 12 wk scans - it looks so real but then you still can't see an awful lot happening to your body so it could just be a video of something else IME! And if you're dealing with a lot of negativity at work for several reasons then that won't be helping. Chin up. It will get better and once you start to feel movements etc it will be exciting.

First, congratulations!

Second, with all the hormones swishing around, of course you will react in so many unexpected (and often unpredictable) ways. Don't feel bad about it. Sometimes you'll feel like it's an anticlimax, and other times you'll feel like there's no way you can contain the excitement (or wee) for another 6 months.

Enjoy looking at your scan pics with your OH when you get home tonight. Work out if it looks like a Bob or Sue (or Jack or Olivia...) and whether it sucking its thumb now means it will be an astronaut or not!

Don't let one person's negativity spoil your good news. So what if there have been loads of pregnancies at work? Why does that make yours any less special? If it helps, I work in an office where there have been 5 babies born this summer, and two more on the way. Sometimes it felt like we were cattle, but it was so good to be able to talk about what we were going through. And even if it was boring for those who weren't involved, tough, it was fun for us.

Oh. Obviously we didn't actually have the babies in the office, but you know what I mean.

Feel miserable if you want to. It'll pass and you'll be happy and excited before you know it. and ignore the sad tossers from work...

Thanks so much for your responses. I've got a 'date' with my husband tomorrow (we hardly ever see each other due to clashing work schedules) so hopefully that will cheer me up.

I'm going to talk to the person at work and explain how hurtful her comments are. This is my first pregnancy and we've been trying for ages and it's a really big deal to me that I'm pregnant and I don't want to have to go through the next 6-7 months feeling like I can't say anything about the pregnancy. When I first found out I was pregnant I was really excited thinking I would be able to talk to the other 3 about it all and now it feels like such a disappointment.

So I appreciate your thoughts and hopefully things will be more positive from here on in!