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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

7 weeks preg and scared it will all go wrong!!...is this normal!

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shelly24 · 20/08/2005 15:43

Hi everyone.
I'm currently 7 weeks preg with my second child.
I gave birth to a stillborn baby boy in may,he had an extremely rare condition,and i've been told it won't happen again.
Now i'm preg again i'm absolutly petrified that something will go wrong again,and its all i think about at the moment!
Every twinge or slight thing out of the normal i panic about!I will be offered a scan at 8 weeks and i think i will feel better when i actually see the baby on the screen,but i just know this whole experience is going to be a real rollercoaster of a ride!
Has anyone out there experienced a still birth and has gone on to have healthy children quite quickly afterwards?
I would love to have some reassurance as i'm driving my DH mad by keep asking him if everything is going to be ok this time around,and hes convinced that it will be,but i'm not so sure right now!
Please help!!.x.x.

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bonkerz · 20/08/2005 15:47

oh babe, sorry you are going through this. I havent had a still birth but i did lose 2 babies via miscarriage and am now 21 weeks pregnant. For the first 20 weeks i was terrified something would go wrong. I have had 6 scans so far and am still scared for my baby. It really is hard to relax and enjoy a pregnancy after such tragedy but you are being looked after and have to take some confort in that. It does get easier, just make sure that all the people caring for you are aware of how you feel and dont be afraid to push for all the checks and tests that you want.

shelly24 · 20/08/2005 15:53

Thanx bonkerz
I don't think i'll be completely content until i see a healthy and live baby at the end of this preg!I do try and take it easy,getting loads of rest etc,as am still on 26 week mat leave from my stillborn,and i'm not due bk to work until october,so its nice to have the time to rest.But its also time to spare to worry about every little thing!!!

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bonkerz · 20/08/2005 16:16

Mumsnet is an amazing place! I have met alot of people on here who have helped me through the toughest times! Weekends are always quiet tho! Talk lots! I have found that i can write my deepest darkest fears on here and have got support that has meant so much.

HellyBelly · 20/08/2005 16:28

I agree with bonkerz. I've only had 1 m/c but I was stil terrified of loosing my ds when I was pg. I wish I had mumsnet then as I can't express my feelings properly in rl and just put on a brave face - on here and email etc I find I can say exactly how I feel. Make the most of mumsnet - it's great!

Good luck with everything

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 24/08/2005 21:34

Me and Maddyd were wondering where you were so searched you out.

Everything will be fine.I wont say dont worry as I know i would be the same.But I have a very good feeling about you shelly and i am sure that all be wonderful

xx

ErogenousJones · 24/08/2005 21:59

Oh, sweetie, I feel for you, I really do. our first baby was stillborn following an early miscarriage of another and I can only comment from a male perspective.

You must not worry - for any rejection of a foetus is due to a pathelogical condition that will profoundly handicap the child and your family. I am sorry if this sounds dramatic, it is not meant so to be. Enjoy your pregnancy. After all, you are in tip top health to become pregnant in the first place.

Now is the time to have a regime and a goal. There is a finite point - nine months! Now is the time that you can succour girlfriend relationships for it will be they who will be of greatest help in the days, weeks and years with your new born baby but you must not forget your husband, partner, boyfriend that you still have time for them to pamper you to pamper them... if you get what I mean.

Make some modest changes to your diet and lifestyle so that you eliminate caffeines, quit smoking, reduce alcohol, do not go out partying until the early hours of the weekend; instead, go for a walk in the park, skim stones in the local river or duckpond, visit the library in your lunch-hour and read peotry or view an art gallery.

Basically, take things easy and relax - don't allow your work to stress you out, delegate if you can or confide in your line manager that you need support. No-one is an island however much anyone tries so to be. Good luck

EJ

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