Anyone else not feel very pregnant???

[giantpurplepeopleeater]

Hi all, am struggling a little bit so thought I would throw this out there and see what you all think....

I am now 21 weeks, I have my final scal in a week and a half. I have had 2 previous scans (dating and 16week) and have seen midwife once. I have heard the heartbeat twice and seen the pictures, and so far everything seems to be fine.

So why is it that I don't feel very pregnant? I am finding it hard to actually believe this is happening. I'm yet to feel baby (although an feeling funny flutters sometimes but that could be wind!) and although my stomache is now protruding a bit, I am overweight which means its difficult to see actual baby growth under the extra padding!!!

This was all a bit of a shock and I didn't find out till 14 weeks anyway after being told I would never be able to have children naturally, so that could have something to do with it. But I am actually convinced that something is wrong and they will find it at the next scan. I'm not yet getting excited and am getting upset when I realise that I am not reacting in the way people expect me too!

Does anyone else feel like this???? How did you deal with it????

I'm in my 19th week and don't feel particularly pregnant either, but then I am not sure exactly what "feeling pregnant" in the second trimester is supposed to feel like - it's the first trimester you may experience the worst symptoms such as sickness and tiredness and I suppose in the third you're likely to have a more visible bump. I'm a bit worried about the 20 week scan as I keep reading about all the things that can go wrong, but I'm also looking forward to having it for reassurance. I last heard the baby's heartbeat at the midwife's at 17.4 weeks. I still find it hard to believe there's a baby inside me and haven't yet told everyone. I don't think I've felt any movements yet - I have felt what could perhaps be described as the odd twinge but I'm not sure if it's wind.

I have a slight bump at the moment but it's not really obvious to other people. All my clothes still fit, although some are getting a bit tight.

Oh, oh, I'm exactly the same!! I'm only 18 weeks though, but I don't feel pregnant at all - just a bit fatter around the waist. I heard the heartbeat at 16 weeks so I should believe it is ok, but I've just been having dreams where I go to the anomoly scan and they say it's all gone wrong.

I find it hard to get excited, and I said this at the weekend to some friends, and one of them is 20 weeks pregnant and she said that she was only just starting to believe she was pregnant as her belly felt a bit firmer, but if it wasn't for that she wouldn't know at all!! She can't feel anything yet either.

So, I guess it's normal!! But doesn't stop me worrying of course. I just remind myself everyday that women have babies all the time and there is nothing to indicate that there's a problem and why shouldn't we be one of the normal ones?

Bet you can't wait for that next scan....

xxx

Thanks guys! EggsandBacon - that is exactly how I have felt. I keep thnking something must be wrong, then telling myself how stupid that is!

I'm glad I'm not the only one! My partner and family etc have accepted this much more easily than I have and can't seem to understand why I am not getting more excited - I think this is what has upset me the most. But it makes me feel better that I am not alone!

Well in another couple of weeks I bet we will all be on here excitedly talking about feeling kicking so I really should stop worrying! I am very much looking forward to the next scan and am hoping I will feel much more reassured after that!