is it just the hormones

[mum2oneloudbaby]

I am 23wks have found out that we are having a DS, we already have a dd.

Why, oh why, does everybody expect me to be jumping for joy and beside myself because I will have a child of each sex?

I thought my MIL was going to wet herself with excitement, she kept saying I must be so excited.

I really don't care less either way so long as this one comes out as healthy and lovely as the first. Why am I supposed to care? I feel a little irrational to be so bothered by all the comments but I just don't get it.

I am alone in this? Is it the hormones making me this irrational?

its a funny one. I just had a son after my daughter and everyone was congratulating me too. But since I`ve had him I get it in a way, it is nice to have one of each.

You do get arsey when pregnant regarding this , and i think it is because you sort of become public property and everyone has an opinion about something very personal to you. Its like when you start discussing names too, everyone has an opinion and it can be quite upsetting.

My twat SIL came to see son when 3 days old, and commented on him having my chin in a very derogatory piss takey way. Well she has fucked it up this time, because I am banning all visitors for the first 2 weeks when my 3rd is born. I want our home to be a private place without being vulnerable to nasty comments. When i am ready, I will let people come. You need to protect your feelings while you are so vulnerable I reckon.

You're so not alone!!!!

I'm 29+6 with DC3. I have 2 DDs aged 5 and 3.

All through this pg I've had everyone - by this I mean not just family and friends, but the girl on the checkout at the supermarket, the old lady in front of me in the queue at the post office, just about everyone - saying 'I bet you want a boy this time then your family will be complete'

Err, excuse me, because I've got 2 DDs that means my family is not complete???? WTF??!!

I guess I should have remembered what it was like when I was pg with DD2 as I had it all then!

Even when I smile politely and say 'actually we don't mind either way just so long as the baby is healthy' they just look at me and say 'yes, but I bet you'd really like a boy'

I'm rapidly losing the ability to be polite!
The next time someone asks me if I know what I'm having or says I bet you want a boy, I really feel like saying 'you know what, I'd really like a rabbit!!!'

Sorry for the rant, I think it most probably is hormone related

Thanks for the rant merlin

It is so irritating I agree your family is complete as was mine with only one now it's just changing.

And OnEdge you do become public property and I find that immensely irritating too. Your SIL sounds a bit like mine (in fact both times she knew I was pregnant before I did only saving grace is that she lives a fair distance from us.

In fact, at the moment not much doesn't irritate me. It's most definately the hormones

it's just as bad the other way - we have a DD and when we tell people that DD2 is on the way they seem to think we should be dissapointed as we will have 2 girls. I have found myself now saying it's another girl and we are so excited before they can comment.
Why do people think you need one of each - this will be the third generation of 2 girls in my family and i think thats lovely, added to which it's loads cheaper on clothes!

agree hevster. to be fair to family it is the first boy for sometime. but there would be an upside to another girl!

Wait for number three - I already have a DS and a DD and the number of people (including the checkout girl etc) who have asked me why I am having another when I already have one of each drives me insane!

My reply is dependent on my mood but has been rather scathing at times

peppa you could always borrow merlins reply next time and tell them you want a rabbit!

I'm the same as Hevster we are having a second boy and I have a step-son too so people give me such a disappointed look and then forced smile and say lovely. Everyone seems to have quite a downer on boys so to have 2 (and a half) is disasterous!

I used to work with a lady who had 3 boys, she said she got so annoyed when pregnant with her third that everyone thought she must be trying for a girl as there was no other reason to be having 3 children!