Regressing after 2-3 weeks of excellent toilet training

[naturopath]

ds is almost 3.

Toilet-trained him about a month ago, and it was incredibly easy - he was ready, there were a few accidents, but on the whole, went very well. He was even going by himself, and only telling me afterwards.

We had lots of praise (and balls and stickers) when successful, and very matter-of-fact, not minding of the odd accident.

Fast forward to now and he is basically going in his pants (wees and poos) whenever, wherever.. (although not always - if I take him in time he will go on the toilet and therefore not wet himself, but if I don't take him he will not tell me and would rather do it in his pants. At nursery he has not been wetting himself - it seems to be largely at home).

We have just been on holiday, and it started out well, but went downhill. I think it's as a result of dh looking after him quite a bit and not taking him too often.

Any ideas why the regression? He was so proud of himself when he did his first poos on the toilet - why has he lost interest? I am still just as happy and full of praise when he does go..

Something has happened at home or to do with home that has triggered this. Perhaps dh has told him off for wetting/soiling, or said he was being lazy. Some dc do get bored after the initial success, and can't be bothered, especially when they are engrossed in play. I think he does better at nursery because they take him to the loo as part of their routine. Can ds say what changed? Is there any tension between you and dh, even if only about this issue, because it will have been sensed by ds.

Have you discussed this with dh and tried to find a plan that you will both stick to, because the inconsistency in approach can be counter productive. If dh doesn't take him to the loo as often as you, and ds wets/soils, how does dh handle it? He needs to be on board with you on this. Why not have a word with nursery and see if they can offer any suggestions, then you can tell dh that they have found such and such an approach useful and work on that. Do look back to when the breakdown in training occurred and examine everything that happened around then, to see if you can shed some light.

No advice (sorry), just marking my place because DS has done exactly the same thing. I asked him if he wanted to go back to nappies and he started wailing so I am at a loss what to do...