Poo drama, now no interest in potty training

[Fandangos]

In March we decided to give our 2yrs and 4month old DD a little push to potty train (said she had some new big girls pants to wear and she chose a potty etc.) and she was really into it. In a nutshell, she had no problem with peeing and telling us when she needed to go, but the poo was a different story, she seemed to be holding it in. On second day of wearing pants, she pooed in them and didn't let on, this was fine and we expected it. Then, she held in the poo until she could hold it no more and she stopped wanted to pee on potty for fear of the poo sneaking out. We really encouraged her in every way and told her we were there for her and she had to just let go of the poo. This did not end well, she pooed on the carpet a few times in one day and was really traumatised, running around in circles like a headless chicken, really distressed, it was so awful to watch. I was of the opinion that once you start, you do not go back to nappies, but by this point she would not go near the potty and would kick angrily away. I decided that if she wanted to, she could wear pull ups and just tell me when she wanted to use the potty. 2 months on, she has hardly ever asked to use the potty and when I encourage her to do so, she refuses.

My questions are: does anyone have any advice on what might make her want to use the potty or toilet again (we've used reward charts, chocolate, big big praise)? And has anyone been through this and how/when did the child decide to go back to pants and potty?

she's too young. stop trying.

you;ll end up having her on medication for severe constipation.

Magaly, I know what you mean, the way she reacted was certainly really negative for her and we had to put a stop to it.

As she's my first, I really just wanted reassurance that she will come back to it eventually, as I couldn't really find any relevant info or advice anywhere. But I guess you don't see many adults in nappies!

sorry if my post yesterday was really abrupt/

A friend of mine had to take her dd1 to a consultant about toilet training. The child is 4 (just). Her mil was putting pressure on her to tt the child so she tried to do it before she was ready, when she was about 2. After about a year and a half of stress and puddles and worse (holding poo in and needing medication) my friend got an apt with a consultant who told her to just leave it for three months. By this stage my friend's child was coming up to four! so was a bit sceptical. But she just put the child back in nappies for 3 whole months. It's to 'reboot' the child's associations of toilet training.

Was just looking at this forum for the 1st time as I have started to encourage going for a peepee before bath (rather than standing in bath peeing) for my 22 month DD and tonight she accidently did a poopy (4 continuous evenings of peeing in potty prior to this). This resulted in her crying and also running around like a headless chicken (like you mentioned Fandangos). She seemed quite traumatised. By bedtime (10 mins later) she was finding it funny that 'the poopy came out instead' but I doubt she will use the potty again for a while. I just wanted to see if it was normal!

I've not tried anything in the day as I'm not sure she is ready yet. Also not quite sure how to bring this into a daytime routine anyway so maybe this is a blessing in disguise

When they're ready, toilet training is EASY.. HOnestly. That's the key to easy toilet training; waiting 'til they're ready.

I have to admit that peer pressure is a massive thing, you can't help wondering if there's something you're not doing right to help your child, when all other friends her age are out of nappies (though some of them have had a few steps backward from time to time). But I agree Magaly, my daughter is miss independent in so many ways, so if she was actually ready to come out of nappies, she would do it. Her body just must not be ready.