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potty-trained DD (for 4 months) now wetting herself - behavioural or poss urine infection??

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themanwhocantbemoved · 21/04/2010 20:05

copying from children's health - didnt realse this board was here!

My DD has been full potty-trained since January, when she turned 2.5. She was well ready for it, and it was very straightforward - she wet herself probably only once or twice. Over the course of a few weeks she was increasingly able to hold it in once she annouced she needed for a wee - eg if in the car she could hold on 15 - 20 mins until we reached a loo. Until yesterday..when she wet herself twice, once at nursery, and once when she was trying to get on to the loo, but didnt make it in time. She has also now wet herself twice today - once in the car - she didnt even tell me she needed a wee, she just told me she had done it - and then again when about to get in the bath...she was distressed about it (as she had been the toehr three times) and it was like she had no warning at all. She is compeltely fine in herself- no temp, no pains etc. Well, she does have a bit of a cold actually, and her brother, my 17 month old DS does have a really bad cold, with temp and infected ears (which he is on antibios for). But she has not had the temp and has not been nearly as bad as him.
The other thing is that this week she has started full days at nursery for a few days (previosuly was doing mornings only, but am about to go back to work next week).
Does anyone have any experience or advice? Could this be some kind of urine infection, without other symptoms or temp? Could it be related to her cold and will pass? or is it more likely a behavioural thing?
I am weighing up whether i should wait and see, or whether to take her to the GP (i am very slightly reluctant to go, which i know is stupid, but have been three times in last 6 days, twice for me, once for DS..and of course i wont hesitate to go if think DD should be seen, just dont want to go if totally unnecessary).
PS just to clarify, when i say full potty-trained, she wears pull-ups at nights, and on the occasions when she has a nap during the day - maybe twice a week.
thank you for any advice!

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muddleduck · 22/04/2010 13:59

both my dss did something like this. It's like they get bored with the whole thing, or maybe just overly confident?

My tactic was to reintate stickers for staying dry. if this hadn't worked then perhaps I'd have thought it was something more medical IYKWIM.

girlywhirly · 22/04/2010 14:25

Could be the full days at nursery, plus she knows you're going back to work, so probably feeling a bit insecure as she's not quite well. I'd make light of the accidents and try to reassure her that you will still be coming home after work.

themanwhocantbemoved · 22/04/2010 22:15

thanks ladies - appreciate your responses. she has stayed completely dry today. i have reverted to early potty training days - ie asking her constantly if she needs a wee, taking her to the loo when i go etc...but it has resulted in her going when persuaded/asked/encouraged, and no wet pants. which makes me think it must be pyschological and not medical.
i thought about it some more last night: she is fairly clockwork in doing a poo after lunchtime - has been like that for a year or so - and realise that her staying at nursery for full days has scuppered that - she didnt do it then, and had held in/not wanted to do it, and has waited until she got home, so realise it is very likely to be connected to that - from the outseit she was fine telling nursery staff she needed a wee, but feel like on tuesday, she needed a poo, didnt say, then ended up weeing herself as didnt want to say about that either...and then knowking on to at home the next couple of days.
waffling again - sorry for another long post. thanks again for replies...do def feel happy (you know what i mean) that i know it is a pyschological rathr than medical prob.

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displayuntilbestbefore · 22/04/2010 22:17

There are a lot of OPs about potty training accidents this evening

themanwhocantbemoved · 22/04/2010 22:20

how odd!! - why the face??? and incidentally, i started this thread yesterday evening....

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displayuntilbestbefore · 22/04/2010 22:28

oops, there was supposed to be more instead of the face

was going to say that now we're into the last term, tiredness could be affecting some of the DCs and causing any lapses in their usual bladder control.
IME any upset or anxiety, however minor it might seem to an adult, can affect a child even if they've been potty trained for years. DS1 started to have accidents when I had to have surgery a few years ago and it happened regularly for about 4 weeks until things settled down at home and I was doing my usual things again, so it could well be the change of nursery hours.

themanwhocantbemoved · 22/04/2010 22:35

I get you now!! (have just recently namechanged out of boredom/time for change - and thought as a result perhaps the old MN favourite pastime of troll-spotting had extended to boring old potty training threads!!!). thanks for the re-enforcement though display - definitely think that is it re disruption of routine/anxiety etc...which makes me sad for her...but it does serve to remind me that although on the surface she has switched from morning to full-day with no obvious other issues, it clearly is a big deal for her (and now even feel bad for thinking it might be a medical issue when so obv thats what it was about!). thanks all.

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displayuntilbestbefore · 22/04/2010 22:40

I also wondered if DS had some sort of medical issue that needed seeing to as it was so out of character but once the disruption to "the norm" had waned, he was fine again so hopefully your DD will be just the same. I suspect she will need extra reassurance from you, as others have said, about how the days will pan out so she knows that the important daily events are just the same ie you being around, coming back from work even if she's not been used to you working IYKWIM

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