Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Flip

Original poster

shall leave it for now or persevere?

8 replies

ArtyJennie · 30/03/2010 11:50

I told dd (2.5) yesterday that the nappy fairies came- took away the nappies and left her with lovely new knickers! She seemed pleased with this and happy to wear her knickers. anyway- yesterday she managed her 1st we in the potty but weed on the floor/sofa 5 times. Today we've had a wee on the floor and no potty wee. I asked if she wanted to wear a nappy and she said 'no i want knickers' about 30 mins late she layed on her changing mat and asked for nappy- i gave in and then 10 mins later she did a poo.

we've got the potty in the living room (laminate floor) and are staying in (bored already!) and i've been asking her if she needs to go (to which she always says no- as she does to most Qs.

Is it looking like i should leave it for now or shal li persevere?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Original poster

ArtyJennie · 30/03/2010 11:55

just to add- we are doing the sticker chart thing too. she likes stickers and has sat on the potty and pretended to go a few times (but didnt get a sticker for that. i made a huge deal out of the 1 successful wee and she go a sticker for this.

OP posts:

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 30/03/2010 11:57

I'd persevere. She obviously knows when she's going to poo and tells you, so that's something. It's only one day so far!

Angeleyesmum · 30/03/2010 13:22

Should definitely persevere! I found Day 1 to 3 the hardest - staying in, wiping the wees and silently getting frustrated while keeping a rictus grin on my face for DD. I'll be honest with you - stickers lost their value by end of Day 1 and I started with milk buttons by end of Day 2 everytime she did something in the toilet (havent used a potty - went straight to training seat).

So far on Day 7 - its hit and miss but she has started to tell me she wants to go for a wee/poo.

Only use nappies for nap/sleep times and cotton panties all the other times.

Good luck!

Original poster

ArtyJennie · 30/03/2010 14:47

hiya- still not having any luck- I said she could have some 'choc choc' if there was wee in the potty- she sat on it a few times saying 'all done!' but not actually producing anything. then 2 mins later did a pee on the floor.

If She doesnt manage to pee in potty at all today does that mean she's not ready yet?

I'm so tempted to give in here- our place is starting to smell of pee!

OP posts:

mamakoukla · 30/03/2010 14:58

not too sure. We had problems to actually convince DD to do a wee on the potty/toilet - she would scream the house down senseless. After a bit of perseverance (and much clapping and mad danicing on a result!) she got the idea but it took us a few weeks before she would do a poo (again, screamed the house down and witheld; I didn't want her to get constipated so gave in and would give her a nappy. At least, she began to understand that she was going to have a poo). In the meantime, after every nap I would put her o nthe potty. I nthe beginning there wasn't too much success but she started to get i nthe habit and once she got that, we started to expand potty time into the day e.g. 20-30 min after her milk so it would have time to 'filter' through. I did let her play with toys and read to maximise the time o nthe potty. About three weeks ago (approx three months down the road) and still no real advances on poo on the potty I just decided to take her nappies away and only put them on for naptime. I was scared!Two days in she simply had to have a poo; cue more crazy dancing and whooping! In three weeks we have had a total of four accidents, three of which were in the first two days and the other because she is petrified of the vacuum cleaner
I think the breakthrough came when she realised that she woke up and had a wee and then she was starting to have wees during the day. So, she was very clear on what the potty was and how to use it before we took nappies away.

Angeleyesmum · 30/03/2010 15:19

Hi ArtyJennie - dont give her any choc choc if she has not done anything in the potty. She needs to understand that she can only get that if she wees or poos. Agree with mamakoukla about the mad dancing and whooping once she does manage to do it. Also the fact that she hasnt done anything doesnt mean she is not ready - she is yet to click what she is meant to do or she may be trying to break your patience. I had the same to begin with - no wees or poos in the toilet and all on the floor and know exactly what you mean about the smell of wee.

All I can say is stick with it and look past all the mistakes and smells. Another thing - dont go by well meaning friends or books saying it only takes 3-4 days - that is crap! It takes much longer than that to first of all twig and to then get them tell you. I am that second phase and the accidents are back again because I am not reminding/nagging/forcing her to go. Am trying to stick with while silently going mad...

Original poster

ArtyJennie · 30/03/2010 16:00

thanks for the advise people. I defo wont give her the choc unless she actually produces in the potty - and havent so far.

We had a poo in the knickers indecent 30mins ago.

Still no potty joy yet today. hmmmf

I made a massive whoop whooping deal of the 1 potty success yesterday and will continue to (if there are any more successes!)

did anyone elses dds have all accidents and no success in the 1st few days?

giving up for a few more months is tempting. she seems to be oblivious to her accidents until she is in the middle of doing them.

OP posts:

mamakoukla · 30/03/2010 20:36

ArtyJennie... I should have also written that I am absolutely surprised with DD's progress as I was anticipating two weeks of not leaving the house and non-stop laundry pile. I had pre-empted what was coming with "No more nappies, you're becoming a big girl now" chats and was terrified the first day I told her, "Okay DD, no more nappies. Panties all the time!".

Once she got the potty idea we did start on stickers which she would stick on her top (some days you would be forgiven to think she was a walking aquarium due to so many fish stickers; I am sure she learnt the art of trickling it out to get more stickers!). She now also has a chart.

Don't worry... it takes a bit of perseverance but once she understands what the potty is for, it will be a lot easier as you can work together. And do let her know how excited you are by any tiny result or even keeping her nappy dry. It's a big step for child and parent. Don't get too stressed: you understand your child best and know how she is progressing and what her comfort zone is. (I was often reminded by relatives how much younger their children were when they were potty-trained; I sometimes felt I was not doing enough for DD but part of me felt that things needed to be done on our own terms).

Flip