waking in dead of night for a wee!

[soxy]

hi

our dd is toilet training really well and is in nappies during the day and a pull up at night. The only thing is that she wakes at about 1am every night asking for a wee, which i know is really good progress but it is then a nightmare trying to get her back to bed again! She is then up at 6am wanting another wee. We had 3 hrs sleep last night!

She doesn't drink loads leading up to bed time so that probably isn't the issue.

So what i was wondering is whether it would make any difference if we woke her when we went to bed at about 11pm and take her to the loo? It goes against every instinct to wake a toddler but we can't carry on like this forever as it is killing us!

Any advice and help would be great, thanks!

To my mind, the bigger problem is getting dd to settle after she has woken, and you would still have this if you woke her at your bedtime. Plus, if there is a space of 5 hrs between wees at night, she will wake you at 4 am!

What is the specific problem you have with getting her back to bed, e.g. won't get into bed, wants to play, makes lots of noise, can't fall asleep?

I would suggest attending to her with muted lighting and minimal talking, using a potty in her room as less opportunity to wander about getting distracted with things and employing delaying tactics. I think it will get better in time as she can hold on for longer in her sleep and eventually attend to herself without the need to wake you.

thanks, yeah good point, she normally says she wants to go into our bed, which we have done on the rare occassion as a last resort, but want to avoid as she just stays up fidgeting etc and isn't really the solution!

So we need to get her out of that train of thought by simply refusing and putting up with listening to her wailing for a while i guess unless anyone had any tips that could help!

Yes, I think you need to stick to your guns and make it clear she will not be getting into your bed under any circumstances! If you stand firm I think she'll get the message, It's a novelty now calling needing a wee and someone comes rushing in! If she stays quietly in her own bed but still awake that's not a problem, after she's been. You can explain that waking you to help her do a wee is good, but keeping you awake afterwards is not.

Could you start a chart and reward for every night she settles quietly with no yelling and fuss?