Pooing in Pants

[Lyns262]

We have been potty training now for about 4 weeks, my little girl is 2.7 years. She is excellent with wees, had very few accidents, and really pleased with herself about using the potty/toilet.

BUT... she consistenly poos in her pants.. generally 2x a day. She does actually know when she is doing them, and actually hides from me when we are at home.

I really don't want to go back to nappies, but really am getting frustrated with rinsing out pants 4 weeks on! Any advice? We have tried bribery, but it does not seem to make any difference!

What I did was give the kids something really cool to play with at a little table when they sat on their potty. Sometimes it can take a while for it to finally come out and they lose patience, but if distracted by a toy they only really get when on the toilet they can relax and let it out.

In the case of DS1 who went to hide when he had his post-prandial poo I put one of the potties in the hiding place (we have about 3 scattered about the house).

Oooh thanks specialmagiclady I am going to try that.

Pigmella, was also advised to try getting him to blow bubbles whilst on loo as apparently the blowing outwards means they can't clench and hold, it hasn't worked for me yet but might be worth a try.

Gosh, you're doing better than we did - a year ahead! Daniel just could or would not do it before, but me very firm and strong this time. He so used to standing (usually holding on to back of chair for poo), must be weird to be made to sit down to poo. Have tried cuddling him and rubbing back whilst on (and to keep him on) toilet, he ready to rush off before wee stopped flowing. Am hoping soon! Wouldn't worry too much, DS young, unless you under pressure from playschool or similar would wait. I know from past when I got angry or didn't get why he didn't get it, just made situation worse. They do what they want when they want. I NEVER thought Daniel would use toilet at all! Suppose halfway there. You've loads of time, don't compare to any of your friends with girls, they're way quicker! Who knows why. K x

Unsure why my message there twice! Will give bubbles a go tomorrow! D also took Early Centre Brochure to toilet earlier, thought that would help, just got in way. Also he insists on sitting on toilet for wee (says standing is "tricky"!), but I have to push willy down or goes all over seat! I also have to pull pants and trousers down and up! K x

like many of the people here my AJ will not go for a poo in the toilet or on the potty, he is now 3.7 years old, has been dry for about 6 months and dry at night for two months, we have tried everything, star charts, rewards, taking away use of the computer (which he loves) at the moment we are confescating toys everytime he has an accident and he has to earn them back by going for a 'poo on the loo' however this does not seem to be working, after 6 months the smilling and 'oh well better luck next time' really is not working, anyone have any other ideas as i am all out. oh and he is also at nursery 3 days a week and runs off to hide like the other children mentioned here. help!

Ok, took a while after wee, but day 11 of toilet training and started pooing on toilet. Hated/scared to start, but now reasonably happy. No accidents at all. Also, at same time dry at night, so now no nappies at all. Yippee! Took total of 3 weeks, from nappies 24 hours a day to no nappies at all. Son very proud, and me too. Think fact nearly 4 helped. Also bribed with small presents (stickers/chocolate not enough!), a present for wee and one for poo. Really did work. Good luck everyone.

My God, how fab to read everyone has problems similar to me!! I am supposedly an experienced Mum of 4 but my little one who's just 3 totally refuses to tell me she wants to poo and it is driving me to distraction, does it straight into her pants every time. Have caught her on a couple of occasions and quickly whipped her onto the loo, but this is pure fluke and she wont tell me she wants to go. I know she understands it all as she is very articulate but am getting sick of the sound of my own voice saying the same things ad-nauseum. Can't even really remember having any bother with the first three though I'm sure it wasn't plain sailing but it can't have been that bad or else I'd surely remember! No problems whatsoever with wee's and getting drier each night but poo - no way. Have found much relief in all the postings about similar problems and am going to read Poo goes to Pooland (can't wait!!). Any other chit-chat gratefully anticipated.