why won't she potty train,, feel despondant

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My dd is 2 years and 10 months and I'm tearing my hair without her.

She knows what the potty and toilet is for, pretends to go on them all the time, puts her teddy on them as well for a 'wee wee'. She has watched me wee and yet she will not actually do a wee in them. She will stand right next to the potty and wee on the floor and look at me blankly while I try and catch the wee and get her to sit down at the same time.

She just doesn't get it. I've tried leaving her for a few weeks, I try no pressure etc, rewards stickers everything.

My eldest two children were easy to train, they got it straight away with only a few accidents and they were dry by 3 day and night.

please don't laugh but its getting me down. My well meaning friends keep saying isn't she dry yet ours are who are younger than her. I feel like a complete failure. I'm 33 weeks pg and she is 3 in may too.

What if she is still in nappies by september? she starts nursery then

that should read tearing my hair out WITH her

i would leave it for now... I did not start training either of mine until 3, and then they were dry day and night withing days.

if she can't gquite do it, then don't push it

i think being in nappies at this age is perfectly normal..

why would you feel a failure that your not yet 3 year old is not toilet trained?

if se is not physiologically ready, then ther eis nothing you can do

leave it, it is unnecessary pressure

just try not to panic, easier said than done I know.

I think they are crafty little blighters and they can smell the fear on us.

As frustrating as it is, you must grit your teeth and make light of it - "oh, that's a shame, nevermind you can make it to the potty next time" , "oh look, you nearly made it that time" ...

Would it help, when she has an accident, to leave her "wet" for a little longer, i.e. a consequence, also make her partly responsible for the clearing up - get her to fetch the cloth and to soak her knickers in the bucket.

You said that she just doesn't get it ! therefore she is not ready . Just leave her to get it in her own time.
I promise it will happen . My DD was 3.3 before she "got it " and was then dry day and night from that moment .
PS you do have my sympathy , I am speaking from hindsight .....at the time I was a lot more stressed than you are !!

My DD (23 months) did a poo in the potty for the first time on Thursday.

I got back from work and my mum had saved it for me to see