Tearing my hair out! Help!

[SantaLucia]

Started potty training DD yesterday. She is 2.5, an only child and I am a SAHM (although I hate that phrase!)

We had lots of accidents at the start but she liked the idea of using the potty, loves talking about it and reading about it and kept trying, happily sitting on it. By the late afternoon she was doing really well and filling the potty with wees. It was a tough day for me but seemed to be going in the right direction. Chocolate buttons helped her, as did phone calls to tell Granny how well she was doing. She went to bed telling me that she was going to "do lots of wees and poo in the potty tomorrow".

This morning she woke up and started crying when I got her knickers out of the drawer. Since then all I have heard is "I don't want to..wee on potty, sit on potty, wear knickers etc". She is cross and whiney. Crying all the time about every little thing. Refused to sit on potty, flung it out of her room into the hall and then did a wee in her pants.

Should I give up? I feel really fed up. As with all elements of child rearing - I am mystified.

Any opinions welcome, honesty and advice appreciated!

I would give up - it really isn't worth the upset! Wait a month or so and then one morning casually ask does she want pants or a nappy on. She may say yes, she may say no. If she says no wait another month and so on. You can lead a child to a potty but you cannot make them pee or poo!

Don't know if you'll read this but I think i might have persissted. it may have been a matter of remaining calm and repeating your self over and over that 'now you use the potty and thats how it is. nappies in bin' etc.
not done potty training yet so in no way an expert but i know thats what i'll do with my son when we start it next weekend!

Hope we all win in the end!

For interest: I did persist and things got a lot better the following day. BUT I did give us both a "nappy break" where I shoved the nappy on and took her out in the car to a local shopping centre. It made me feel human again and when we got home, we took off the nappy and she was back on track.

Today has been more of a challenge! Quite a lot of accidents as well as the successes. She doesn't seem to mind anymore if she wees in her pants and she doesn't bother telling me every time either! I'm now combining pull ups with potty visits and she seems much more happy and relaxed.

Good luck next weekend! Its hardcore!

I'd say stick with it. DD was similar - really embracing it at first but then resisting.

It's a huge change for her and there is an emotional element to it. We did it recently while on holiday and looking back now the first 3-4 days were very draining for me. But we got there.

She is giving up nappies, and becoming a big girl - it's a big change but it has to happen. Continue to support and praise her & lavish attention when she goes on the potty, and don't make a fuss of the accidents - another couple of days and you will be over this hurdle.