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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Clarabumps · 15/03/2010 13:50

i think i may be losing my mind. Have been pt for one week and am no further forward if anything..i seem to be going backwards. DS is 2.8 and a first he showed some interest in the potty and we made it to the potty a few times and i done all the big whoop, clappy stuff but he doesnt even want to sit on the potty anymore..and when he does,he'll sit for a few moment s before walking away and peeing all over the carpet. I am trying to stick to him like glue but everytime igo to make the dinner he does it then!argh! he has good bladder control and can go for a good few hours without wetting himself but he just wont do it in the potty!
I feel like im getting no where.And number twos are just as bad..Any advice??

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doodledrawers · 15/03/2010 14:41

He's possibly just not ready yet. Is there a reason why he has to be potty trained now? In this situation I just gave up and tried again a couple of months later. DS1 was trained in a week just before his third birthday. DS2 didn't totally get it until 3.6, but then he's a stubborn so and so! Not sure if this constitutes useful advice, but boys are often trained later than girls, there's no rush, and life's a lot easier if you can wait until they're more ready!

notnowbernard · 15/03/2010 14:43

My advice is to stop and wait until he indicates to you he is ready to train

He isn't ready from what you say (IMHO)

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Clarabumps · 15/03/2010 17:14

i was just trying to get a head start on it as he's due to start nursery in the summer and places are limited and if he isnt trained then he won't get in. I know the summer seems a long way away..but its three months really. Perhaps you are right though. I should leave it a wee while and see how he gets on in a few months. was considering getting him a doll that wets itself and using that on the potty and hopefully he would copy? has anyone tried this?

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zuzkah · 15/03/2010 18:39

my ds is stubborn 2.4 year old. he is ready but didn't want to sit on a potty at all. I bribe him with tic-tacs to actually motivate him to bother and sit on a potty. we also got him a pottychair which is much more comfy than a normal potty.

michala79 · 15/03/2010 18:42

I am potty training my little boy, he's 2yrs 3 months. The first week and a half was a nightmare accidents all over the place, then he just point blank refused to use the potty, so i bribed him a few times with little sweets and that worked well. After 3/4 times i stopped reminding him about his potty and he forgot about the sweets. After two weeks he was using the potty on his own. I found the less i asked him to try to wee! the more likely he was to use the potty when he really needed to. We are three weeks in now and although we haven't really ventured out far we only have the occasional accident (not every day).

notnowbernard · 15/03/2010 18:55

IME it is just so much easier if you wait for them to tell you

I 'trained' 1 dc and although she did well initially, once the novelty wore off after a few weeks the periods of wetting were on and off for ages. And nothing worked (bribery, treats, star charts etc)

The other dc I left until she told me one day she didn't want a nappy anymore. Done and dusted in 1 day (seriously). I could probably count the number of wee accidents in 12m since leaving nappies on the fingers of 1 hand. And she pooed herself once, on day 3

ALso I feel unless they can independently pull up and down trousers/pants etc it is WAY too much hassle. You will basically need to shepherd them to the toilet constantly!

LillianGish · 15/03/2010 18:56

I would also use bribery (and did so with both my two). A smartie for every wee in the potty (could use stickers if you are averse to sweeties, but that wouldn't have worked for either of mine). Had same success as michala. I wouldn't have thought 2.8 was too young to start especially if he has good bladder control.

michala79 · 15/03/2010 20:26

Really its only been a week, don't stress. Get him some funky pants, my boy likes Thomas the tank he wore all 14 pairs in one day, couldn't make his mind up which he liked best. But seriously don't give up just yet, you could be closer to success than you think. Hang in there!

TottWriter · 17/03/2010 09:23

I'm not there with my DS yet, so take what I say with a pinch of salt, but I'm sure I read somewhere that there are children who just don't like the potty and go straight to the toilet. If you got a special seat for your loo, would he be any more likely to sit there?

Otherwise, the advice here so far seems pretty good.

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