DH says DS, 23 months, should have been potty trained at 3 months

[Gangle]

F-ing furious. DH is dr and has read an article in the BMJ about early toilet training. I'm sure it can be done in some form but don't get how a child can be fully toilet trained until they walk and talk. Apparently one of DH's colleagues has a 7 month old daughter who is toilet trained and another who was trained at 3 months. Mmm. Guess I am a terrible mother for putting it off until he is 2!

Its called elimination communication IIRC. I thought it was a great idea... until I had kids. DS was finally done this year at 3.2yrs.

If your DH wants to do it he can stay home and clean up the mess .

Let him do the pee pee sounds etc and then do the cleaning up!

If your dh could have potty trained my ds at 2 I would have been seriously impressed .

I'm sure someone will correct me but I'm always very suspicious of such claims. Surely the parents are just working very hard to catch what comes out rather than any genuine toilet training?

Not this week he hasn't.

How does a 3mo remove pants, walk to potty, sit on potty and then let you know what they've done.

I assume your DH is talking about parents who choose not to use nappies, but are so 'at one' with their LOs that they can spot the signs in time to dangle baby over a toilet.

If he is such a potty training expert, I'd suggest that you use the easter bank holiday (or whenever he next has a long weekend) so that he can start the training and show you how it's done.

Exactly what I'm going to do. Apparently I am "babying" him. Due to have DS2 next week, was putting it off until that was out of the way and the weather a bit better so he can wander around nappy-less. Bloody cheek, enough to send me into early labour.

Years ago people who had to wash shitty nappies by hand [yuck] devised this 'training' that they toileted their babies from a very young age even as young as 6 weeks....what they actually did was feed the baby then dangle them over the 'pot' this wasnt training as such it was more a well timed move.

The thing is a child can only control his bladder when he understands the sensation and how to evacuate his bladder this is not a concept a baby can understand,all 3 of my dc were toilet trained day and night by the age of 2 not because im super mum but just bcos they were ready.

If your dh can do this im sure that channel 4 would hire him lol.

Well, despite being a doctor your dh is quite ignorant. You can train a baby to wee on the potty before they have developed a concept of weeing, or even know that they need to "go". They are not physically able till at least over a year.

However, in some cultures they insist on putting a baby on potty after every meal, and thing the baby is a blardy genious when it is able to produce something. This is however a reflex and quite co-incidental. It is not toilet training, it it "toilet accustomizing".

x post nickschick! lol

lol quint

I thought your dh was going to move to Nashville or somewhere? Can't you persuade him to hurry up and go?

Just let DH do the potty training if he is so keen.

There would be no point in potty training if you are due a baby any day now. I can guarantee your Ds would only regress anyway.

FWIW I only consider a child to be fully potty trained when:

they can take their own pants on/off
Wipe own bum
Wash own hands

Well tell him he should be making up for lost time and potty training him now.

If he wanted him trained at 3 months, he should have done it. Or did he read about a time machine in the same journal?