My 3.6 year old seems to be taking forever to toilet train. She started December 08 and is still having accidents all the time (yes has been tested at least a couple of times for UTIs - all clear). She is much more prone to accidents at home (eg at the bathroom door) and in other familiar environments than when we are out and about, when perhaps suprisingly, she's not bad at holidng on.
Worse though is the latest thing which is that she doesn't tell anyone that she's done a poo. Sometimes she'll have a go at wiping herself but mostly she doesn't bother.
We keep telling her that she will a) have a sore and itchy bottom and b) smell bad, but this clearly isn't working.
I am NOT getting into giving out chocolates for the loo but if there are any other recommended tactics I'd be v grateful. Star charts etc long outlived their usefulness. Even a three year old can't stay motivated by stickers for over a year.
However, I'm getting anxious as she starts school in September and although that sounds a long way off, I would have said this time a year ago that February 2010 sounds a bloody long way off too and we are doing more or less no better at all than we were then.