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Possible toilet aversion/phobia

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VickyBrierley · 15/02/2010 16:45

Hiya

Hope someone can help me with this one - not quite at tearing hair out stage yet but with pre-school looming at Easter....

DD is 3 this month. I started to train her about 9 months or so. Got the wee thing very quickly and has been dry in the day ever since.

Not the same with poo's though. Her first poo was on the potty during the wee training. She screamed blue murder and leapt off the potty.

This happened a couple of times. Then she started to become afraid of her nans toilet - again seemingly from nowhere. She is happy to sit on our toilet and their upstairs toilet but refuses to go anywhere near a public cubicle either.

Consequently she does not tell me when she needs to go but 'disappears' into her room. She isn't regular either, she does not go every day.

I have talked to her about this but our conversations are frustratingly vague. I did manage to catch something about 'when she is big and strong.'

Also, something that may have some bearing is that when we were toilet training an advert for Panorama came on at lunch . It featured a plastic man wind up toy swimming in a toilet which then flushes, ejecting said toy onto the beach. DD became very concerned at this and wondered if the little man would be OK.

We've been dealing with it at present by just talking to her and changing her but not making a huge fuss.

Phobia sounds too strong but she certainly has a toilet-poo aversion thing going on. Any ideas?

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mrspoppins · 16/02/2010 07:22

When she poos in her pull ups, empty the poo down the toilet and let her flush it and wash her hands as you would for normal toilet use.Always sort her out in a toilet so she can see that it is the right place for such things!Give a sticker chart and let her have one sticker for flushing her poo away and two for just having a try on the loo.
Don't even talk it over with her...be very laid back to relieve the tensio she is obviously building up over it all.

Public loos...They are not always the cleanest of places and she may have picked a feeling about them from adults around her. Don't worry about that at all. Jst continue using them if you need to with a positive attitude.

If she isn't pooing every day, perhaps they are a little hard to come out? Up her fibre in her diet and fluids to see if that makes it any easier.

Don't worry about it and don't put a time limit on it.It will come.Good luck

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