DS potty trained himself just after his 2nd Birthday. All of a sudden, he hated being wet or dirty and would ask to be changed and when we got a potty, he got very good, very fast at telling me when he needed to go. We dropped potties quite quickly and got a seat for the loo at home and a potette for while out and about (he used to worry about falling in) which he was akways very excited about using. Recently, he's been happy sitting on the big loo seat when we're not at home but likes his Thomas loo seat when we're here.
Fast forward to 8 weeks ago when his sister was born. He is now a month off his 3rd birthday....
He's regressed to at first weeing and now pooing in his pants again. He will not even mention that he needs to go till afterwards.
I've been calm and patient, changing him without a word and getting on with things.
I've been annoyed and changed him calmly but told him that he must tell Mummy when he needs to go next time.
I've been angry and changed him calmly but told him he was naughty
Yesterday, I even left him in his wet trousers for a while to show him how yucky wet trousers feel and ignored him so his wetting wasn't getting him any attention
He's chosen the kitchen table as his new area to go in. He'll run off and hide under the table to wee or poo then come back when he's done. If I catch him there then sometimes I can get him to the loo on time. I've gone back to using our training rewards of a jelly bean whenever we have a successful visit to the loo. I've gotten the potty back out and put it by the table so it's there if he wants to go. I've even moved the table as much as I can to make it less familiar and hopefully less inviting and at least given him head room to sit on the potty.
But this morning I found him on hands and knees in the kitchen doorway straining for a poo!!
I rushed in and whisked him upstairs and sat him on the loo but it was too late (thank goodness he still had his night time pull ups on!) We talked and I told him he should have told Mummy that he needed to go and that it was naughty. He wanted to watch Alladin and I've told him he can't because he pooed himself.
I'm finding it really hard to cope with his wetting and soiling himself on top of a new baby. I feel like we've failed. We tried really hard to prepare him before DD was born and read books and talked and made all changes well in advance so she was the only new thing - and he loves her, always wants to hold her, tells me if she's crying cause he's concerned.... Since she's been born, we've tried really hard to carry on as normal and give him attention. DH took 3 weeks off work to be with us so we could support him and I started driving 4 weeks after my section so we could get back into out normal routine asap. I even asked MIL to have DD on Monday morning so we could go to his swimming lesson without her and had a really nice time together.
But nothing is helping. It's almost as if he is doing it on purpose. I cannot give him more one to one attention than I am. As hard as I try, I do have an exclusively breastfed 8 week old to care for too!
Help me please! How do I fix this? It's driving me crazy