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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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DD just announced that weeing in her knickers is "good"

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ImSoNotTelling · 12/01/2010 18:04

Semi rant semi please help.

She was potty trained at half term of winter term whenever that was and took to it pretty easily. hardly any accidents, sitting on potty by herself etc. Poos and wees all fine. She was a bit under 2.5.

Only a couple of accidents since then, which was great. Then in the last week she has had 3 days where she has had all accidents, today 3 so far. I ask her loads if she wants to go, and sit her on the toilet every couple of hours to see if anything happens. Today i sat her on the toilet (she didn't want to but didn't kick up a huge fuss), didn't do anything, then 5 mins later did a massive wee everywhere.

She has never ever had an accident at nursery, goes 2 or 3 morns a week.

I asked her just now why she was doing so many wees in her knickers and she replied "it's good" "i like it".

FGS.

What now?

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ImSoNotTelling · 12/01/2010 19:35

urine-encrusted bump

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Sazisi · 12/01/2010 19:41

DD1 and DD3 both trained really easily and quickly, but then regressed about 6 months after.
DD2 was latr (after several false starts then deciding to put it off..) but no regression.
don't know what that says, but it is quite normal for them to get a bit lazy once they've got the hang of it! Novelty wears off perhaps

DD3, nearly 3, peed the bed the other night, and just said "Anyway I like the smell of wee"

Try a reward chart?

belgo · 12/01/2010 19:46

Tell her it's not good, and that you don't like it.

girlsyearapart · 12/01/2010 20:03

try new knickers with a favourite character on and tell her they don't like to get wet.

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ImSoNotTelling · 12/01/2010 20:13

Sazisi I suspected it might be just one of those things, it was too good to be true really .

I wonder if she likes the attention/novelty of having her clothes changed. If she does it at home i stick her under the shower which she loves, if out it's bath when get home which is also a bonus as far as she's concerned. I can't really change either of those things though.

Thanks for the tips.

Did sticker chart when trained could start another one.

belgo I did think today, this business about not making a fuss or being annoyed etc etc. Well then how's she supposed to know I don't want her to do it? So I had a talk with her and told her that I don't want her doing it. It doesn't make sense to do otherwise at this point. Glad to have that backed up though.

girls good idea I will get some when I hit the shops.

Thanks all I hope it's just a short glitch.

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belgo · 13/01/2010 07:42

Imsonottelling - exactly - children who are potty trained and who have control over their bladder/bowels need to know that it's not a good thing to wet themselves. They need to understand it's unhygienic and makes more work for you.

I also never rewarded my children for using the potty, apart from 'good girl, well done' because I really cannot be bothered with reward charts and I don't see why normal behaviour should be rewarded.

Anabellesmumanddad · 13/01/2010 07:56

My kid is also weeing again (and even pooing) even though she was dry during the day for ages. I feel like she does it on purpose, but reading this perhaps lazy is a better way to think of it.
We might do the sticker chart again, but now I think we might get 'special' knickers and say that if she can show us that she can stay dry for a whole week maybe then she can have the new knickers

JackBauer · 13/01/2010 08:55

All good advice here, but do bear in mind she might have a urine infection. DD1 has had a few and the first sign is always her wetting herself, but she never says it hurts
She also has times when she wants to use the potty instead of the loo, so I have a potty out in the bathroom so she can 'regress' into that if she doesn't want to be a big girl for a bit. It's getting uncomfortable for her now at nearly 4 so hopefully she won't want to...

nickschick · 13/01/2010 08:59

The thing is years ago terry nappies gave the children the experience of wet and uncomfortable at a very early age,modern nappies draw the urine away and a child never actually feels 'wet' and for a child who has never experienced 'wet' a warm gush of liquid held in knickers might initially be a pleasant feel for them- as a nursery nurse this isnt uncommon for a small child generally the way forward is praise and the great suggestion of 'big girl knickers' and do rule out the possibility of infection.

BitOfFun · 13/01/2010 09:05

I'd knock the showers on the head and go for a brisk rub with babywipes too if you think it might be that she is angling for the "reward" of a bath.

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ImSoNotTelling · 13/01/2010 16:11

More good advice thanks all.

All great this morning (nursery then my parents house) then after we walked home she did a wee in the hall despite just having been 5 mins before at my parents house.

I stripped her bottom half in the loo and she asked for a bath, I said no, she grabbed the handtowel and rubbed it on her legs (great).

It has occured to me that when we go to my parents house she drinks a lot of fluids, she is allowed to have squash there and swigs down gallons so I think it's that her bladder is just getting overwhelmed.

Going to try a combo of keeping puttng her on the loo a lot, not bathing/showering immediately on accident, and laying off the squash when we go up the road. Fingers crossed.

Will see how I get on with that!

RE urine infection if it's sporadic could it still be that? PLus when she goes a lot comes out IYSWIM - is it the same as when an adult gets cystitis or should I get her checked anyway if it goes on do you think?

Thanks all.

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girlsyearapart · 14/01/2010 15:06

I know what you mean re litres of squash at parents' houses. Dd1 has her worst 'wee record' at the ILs but she drinks Ribena constantly when she's there so it's hardly suprising..

Poledra · 14/01/2010 15:10

I did the special knickers with DD2 when she regressed (about 6 months on but also after the birth of DD3, so possibly a bit upsetting for her). We had Dora, I said Dora doesn't like getting wet and, if she weed in the Dora knickers, she had to put on plain ones when she got changed. We got to the point where she was putting her knickers on and saying 'Dora doesn't like to get wet, Mummy, so I need to remember to go to the toilet.'

DD1 did have some urine infections, and it was the smell of her urine that gave it away to me - sorry if TMI, but she did get whiffy

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ImSoNotTelling · 14/01/2010 18:47

No accidents today (fingers crossed) and not been to parents. i think the 18 gallons of squash combined with bladder the size of a pea may be the root of the problem

Will see how get on, if any probs I now have a whole armoury of tricks to tackle her with

Thanks all!

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GoldenSnitch · 21/01/2010 21:07

Poledra - I'm having very similar problem to you..DS has started wee-ing himself after 9 months of being dry. I had put it down to DD's birth 5 weeks ago but had noticed that it smells very strong at the moment - could it be an infection?

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