Great in creche, disaster at home

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DD is 2 and 9 months and is 5 weeks tt at this stage. She has about 1 or 2 accidents a week for the creche and has been like this almost since the beginning. She tells them when she has to go regularly and they say that she has been one of the easiest children to tt.

She has never told me at home when she needs to go and unless i bring her regularly to the toilet will just do everything in her pants. If she wasn't doing so well at creche i would have abandoned it long ago. We are at our wits end at home but seems a shame to give up when she does so well at creche. Any advice?

I suspect that they are also takinng her regularly at creche and that's why she manages. If she isn't able to ask you without prompting then she isn't ready. I do think creches or nurserys are understandably keen to get kids out of nappies but if a child isn't physically able to recognise the signs then it's just miserable. 5 weeks is loads of time for her to get it and if there is really no progress then I think you need to say forget it for a while and put her back in a nappy. See what effect that has - if it upsets her then I would think again and perservere but I suspect it will actually be a relief for both of you. We are potty training dd3 at the moment. She is pretty reliable for poo and very reliable for wee and we've been at it for 10 days only - this is how easy it is when they are ready. Dd1 on the otherhand was 3.5 when she got it - and I tried forcing it many times up to that point and it was dreadful. Don't make that mistake!

Thanks, I agree. I watched her like a hawk today and it is clear that she hasn't a clue when something is coming. I've put her back in nappies and we'll try again in a few months. It was too hard for everybody except the creche!