2 weekscold turkey not getting anywhere should we give up?

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HI, my dd is 2.8 was happy going for a wee on potty/toilet at nursery in pull ups so they suggested we go for it in pants. First 4hrs fine lots of wee in potty, then down hill. Most days its one wee in potty then 9 accidents. After 2 weeks I am debating whether to give up. We asked her if she wanted a nappy but she said "NO want pants" but I cant work out if she just isnt getting it or is being stubbon. She wants the chocolate button or sticker just not by sitting on the potty!! Fed up of washing machine going every night and getting through endless rolls of kitchen roll mopping up carpet. any thoughts?

So is she wearing a nappy or pull ups at all during the day i.e at Nursery? It's just you said cold turkey but then seem to have offered her a choice?

We found that a key point - nappies were not an option and she had to wear the knickers and wee in the potty - end of. Having said that she took a week or 2, and longer to be "reliable" a few of us did a support type thread - was between Christmas and New Year last year if you want to search

Sounds to me like she really isn't ready yet - she needs to understand the signs that she needs to go to the potty and with 9 accidents a day she obviously isn't quite there yet. I would go back to the pullups and try again in a few weeks/months.

Hi thanks for your thoughts. She been in pants all day for two weeks, except at night and for two hours last sunday when I had had enough but then the nappy stayed dry and when I tried to put it back on after a potty trip she went off to find pants so I let her. Nursery have been great she comes home with big bag of wet clothes and shoes every day they just say she will not go when they suggest it then wets her self 5 mins latter as she does at home.
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If I were you I would stop and put her back into pull ups - but not for long, you don't want to give a failure message. Tell her that for the next few days / week she will be wearing nappies again but that you will be going back to pants shortly. This is really to give you both a short break from the pressure. I don't think that you should leave it long though. Keep talking about it and doing regular trips to the potty (not too often as you don't want to bug her - just a couple of times a day e.g. when she gets up, after lunch, before bath and let her choose a story to read while you are there). Don't comment on any wees or poos in the nappy, except maybe to say that isn't it great that soon she'll be able to do them in the potty. Give a chocolate button for any successes in the potty in the mean time.

I think a short break from it can really help you both, but don't see it as giving up - just a hiatus along the way.