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Advice please on second attempt at potty training!

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Reesypeasy · 01/12/2009 16:14

Help please! DD1 is 2.8, and we started potty training in May this year, with it all going great with wees, but no poos on loo, always in her pants until one day, doing a wee in the park loos, she had a major freak-out, screaming yelling, kicking me. Thought that she was so stressed about it that we'd be better off stopping completely for a bit, so we have until yesterday. In the interim, DD2 has been born, is now 4 months. DD1 now fine with her and we have a lovely calm household, so thought it was time to get back to the potty training! She is a very articulate child, speaking really well, generally very happy.We have had really good success with wees again so far, no accidents, but she didn't poo from Sunday until 1pm today, and again in her pants. I know that it is only day two, but I would appreciate any advice: we seem to be going down the same road again as before! She won't use a potty, she has a soft seat for the loo. We are having to use sweets as bribes, which is working for the wees, but just taken her to the loo just to try and she got very upset again, despite me only saying "I just want you to try and do one, it doesn't matter if you don't." Last wee at 1pm, writing this at 4pm. She has been upset and grumpy all day today, so is obviously feeling the pressure, despite both me and hubby being very calm about it all. What can we do to make it fun, and how do we get her to poo on the loo??????

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120cmsOfSnow · 16/12/2009 20:37

From my experience this year...

You have to always remain calm yourself. If you stress, you've lost.

She was dry first, and it took a further 2 months before she was reliably clean.

If you know when she usually poos, wait for her to start, then catch her and move her to the loo. She'll find it hard to stop once started. Then lots of praise and different treat for poos.

It worked for us, but is a hard old slog. Found doing poo pants just the worst. Used to just cut them off at the sides and throw them away. I think in the end that helped too as she found me chopping off her knickers with scissors unpleasant .

Good luck!

theyoungvisiter · 16/12/2009 20:40

she may not be ready with the poos - DS1 was trained for wees (day and night) from about 2.6, but didn't reliably manage poos for another 3 or 4 months.

They are different muscles and different sensations, just because she's got one, it doesn't mean the other will automatically follow at the same time.

theyoungvisiter · 16/12/2009 20:43

we did cloth nappies so I didn't find pooey pants that bad. I just treated it like a pooey nappy and didn't stress and it magically came together - with the help of a bit of bribery and lots of fuss when he did get it in the toilet.

Sorry - not very helpful I realise!

mrspnut · 16/12/2009 20:45

Just stop, if it's hard then she really isn't ready.

My DD2 was 2.10 before she was ready and my friend's DD was 3.7 before she was.

Both of them had it cracked in under 5 days for both poos and wees, with very few accidents and both of them cracked it day and night at the same time.

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