DD Terrified of poo.... and its sending me to the funny farm

[BlueBumedFly]

DD potty trained for wee practically on her own at 2.4 and was very keen to just get on with it. Job done.

Now she is terrified of pooing. It can take days which means she gets terribly constipated from holding back and then it is painful. A whole day can be spoilt as she cries and cries with the pressure, sits down, screams blue murder then gives up.

I am going a bit doolally and my patience is wearing just a little thin.

So, please any advice? We always encourage her to be in the bathroom with us, has seen us poo (sorry TMI I know) but I have covered that angle well and truly!

She is also v constipated. Eats no wheat to speak of, eats fruit, drinks apple juice and water and now is on lactolose but nothing seems to help.

Please help me?

TIA

yes we did the choc buttons thing too which was for everything when we were training her but then was only for poo.
Bbf we have had only success since my last post. So now 5 days with her pooing only in loo or potty. think it was the threat of giving her knickers away that did it.
Am wondering what I'll do when it's dd2's turn cos she can't eat dairy?!

You can get dairy free choc buttons - we've been there!

Or DD was always fond of Organics crisps...

We did choc lollipops but DD has regressed again. She is almost 3 (next week) and after being poorly at 12 months she developed constipation - cue lactulose for a year. Moving onto movicol in the last 6 months but she holds it in and does the 'poo dance' and we have to go back and forth to the loo about 600 million times whilst she is screaming and saying she doesn't need.

We have a poo about every 3 - 4 days and they are gargantuan! She was doing really well and going herself with no probs until she go the flu a couple of weeks ago and back to square one again - if only I could hold it in that long!

It is so frustrating!

She can't have soya, egg, dairy, wheat (though that is being reintroduced soon) and some other stuff like tomato,plum, melon, calpol.. List is odd and long.

Had a feeling she couldn't have the dairy free buttons when I read ingredients. Can't remember why though?

Might be soy in them. We had a long time of no dairy, soy and gluten.

Um, what about chewy sweets like haribos/starbursts/midget gems? Can't remember if they are bad or not.

Think she could have haribos.
She's only 1 so hopefully she'll grow out of some of it before she potty trains.

Trying wheat soon and hopefully doing milk re introduction trial in 6 months.

All sooo dull. Feel bad that she may miss out on the joy that is Cadburys..

OK, still not happening. Going mad.

It it the lactose in milk that constipates or the actual milk?

oh dear..no idea re lactose

we are continuing on the success road which is last thing you want to hear!
Have you tried broccoli? Works a treat with mine.
good luck.

kiwis? my mum who works in a nursing home swears by them for patients!

It is actually because the milk protein molecules are too big for us to digest properly - milk is meant for baby cows - not humans LOL! Could you try rice or oat milk?

You could also try pureed or stewed prunes. You could try kiwi but my DD only ate them about twice then refused.

Apparently I cannot give cooked carrots! Its practically in every meal!!!! Ahhhhhh!

Did brocoli today, will cut carrots!

why not for the carrots??
hope things are improving.
hsve you tried the new knickers purchasing?
think one of the things that helped my dd was to choose a treat (Peppa Pig socks) which she could only have once she did a poo on the potty/toilet.

Girls - SUCCESS - first day ever!!!

I employed the prune juice which I mix with apple juice which is practically all she will drink now, v little water. It ends up this black/purple colour which I told her was extra special. Well, today, after 3 poo-free days she did poo, and on the potty with NO crying. HURRAY!!!!! I feel so happy for her.

Lets just hope it lasts. It was so late and close to bed time she was sitting in bed munching the promise mini-smarties!!

Hope all well with you. Apparently you should not give cooked carrots or cooked butternut... can only think it must be binding? I think raw carrots are ok though.

Hows your FIL doing?

dd2 went 5 days and it too ended after much ignoring - much of dd2 asking to go and not performing - to my knowing she needed and putting favourite dvd on tv and her sitting on potty in lounge while being fed tea. I had to hold her on at times and rubbed her tummy and back and finally success!!! Then we took her poo to the toilet where it belongs and sent it off to play with mummy's poo, and daddy's poo and best friends poo (sorry TMI) and we didn't look back. It did sort itself out - i think it was also explaining (i don't know how much she took in - if any - but it made me feel better) that your poo is all the food stuff your body doesn't or can't use and it has to come out so it doesn't make you poorly. it may feel like your insides are falling out but i promise they are not. Watching it plop from potty to toilet made it funny and waving bye bye and the happy silly dance every time success was had made me feel like a fool but she liked it!

Good luck all - they will get there...

Just joined this discussion as am a little fed up with DD's refusal to poo while awake. Toilet training for wee was fairly easy when she was 2.75 but, still in nappies at night, she only poos when she's asleep (sometimes during a rare daytime nap) but generally within 3 hours of going to sleep at night.
She's 3.25 and otherwise developmentally fine. She understands poo needs to go in the toilet ("so it can be with its friends" - DH's idea!) but nonetheless, apart from a couple of really rare moments when she's said "I need to do a poo" and actually done one, this lady's not for turning!
Wondered whether to just get rid of nappy and let it wake her? But she's still wet at night too - should nappy stay until that stops, or do I take the nappy away to wake her when she needs to wee? Don't want her in nappies for much longer but don't see anything changing until I make the first move!
Have tried all sorts of books on the subject but they are pretty vague. I'm grateful DD doesn't withhold like some children, my niece did that until she was nearly 6 and was in a lot of pain, but still would like experienced mums to advise on what to do - I clearly can't stop her sleeping!